Trading, Missionary-Style!

Crazy idea.  Don’t know if it would work.

I have this sister, Mary.  She’s a missionary in a third-world country. 

Mary told me once that there seemed to be a particular need in that country for businessmen who could come help teach people how to start and run businesses, or for them to start and run their businesses there themselves.  Many of the country’s intellectuals and leaders were killed in mass slaughters some time ago, and the country is still recovering. 

Her mission organization, the largest of its kind in that country, has a unique need.  Before the end of 2008, it needs a way to hire a higher percentage of the country’s natives compared to the number of staff missionaries to meet a quota, so that they can keep bringing in more of their own workers.

I did some research on importing and exporting a few years ago.  It’s a no-brainer that trade can make a difference in an economy.  Even an average person can do trade internationally now, especially through the internet.  I discovered selling on eBay is a wonderful place to begin getting international experience, and could be a stepping stone to importing and exporting through retail websites.  If you need a way to facilitate the process, UPS even offers to help with importing/exporting.

It probably would take a little bit of time to bring about a balance in trade in such a country, but it occurred to me one day that mission organizations such as the one my sister works through could make awesome connections for trade… Particularly if the country they are in stipulates that missions need to hire more natives as part of the agreement for letting them be there!

Not every country a missionary goes to is a third-world country, either, so there might be significant opportunities for us to do exporting to them.  And people in our country who wished to might make trade connections through their business staff, as well.

The mission organizations might hire business missionaries who could train natives in business, trade, and manufacturing, and then hire some of the trainees as liaisons for shipping, importing or exporting, manufacturing, or for staffing whatever businesses they started there.

Mary’s letters to me have indicated that there is not much quality control in her country.  It would certainly be a benefit to them all to have more consistency in their products as well as better ways for them to make a living.  And other countries like ours might be more interested in their products if they did a better job making them, too!

I know there’s a certain kind of puzzle I wouldn’t mind importing if my website took off, someday.  Perhaps among other things, they could start a puzzle-making company and export puzzles. 

And once they got on their own feet, maybe they would want to import goods from us, too.

I realize this particular idea may not be a help to our own economy immediately.  But if as many of us as were capable of it had a little retail website with products in it set up specifically for selling goods to other countries (maybe in addition to our regular jobs), we might even be able to make a big difference in bringing down our federal deficit.

And who knows, maybe some of us would like our little retail online businesses enough that they could become our real jobs, and the jobs we had could become provision for others to have jobs in our country.

How to Create Some Homeless

This morning there was an article in our local paper. 

It seems some leaders in our town are getting upset with homeless people camping out in unused landscape inside city limits.

“It looks terrible!”  They say.  “We have to make another law to keep them from just moving their ratty RV’s (that they live in) around to another spot every two days.” 

(The law here says RV’s can’t be parked in any one place for more than three days.) 

“We’re going to have to increase the stringency of the law to prevent these people from setting up tents in other peoples’ backyards!”  “We certainly don’t need the riffraff in plain view when we are trying to make our city more attractive to businesses!”

In response to the comment of one board member who said that making such laws would give people who already have few options even fewer:  “That’s why we have so many people here who are homeless.  We make it too easy for them!”

And then there’s this line in the article about who these people are. 

Apparently, these “problem people” formerly occupied a run-down trailer park until a developer came along and decided he wanted to use the space to build some kind of business or other. 

(I hadn’t noticed that the developer has even started building anything there yet, two months later.  But then, it’s been a couple weeks since I went by there.)

They were given two months to leave.  The developer had said he’d pay a little something to help them out, as I recall–his only obligation, in his eyes.  It didn’t matter that it may not have been enough to help some of them them move.  (I know from experience how expensive moving can be, especially if it’s to some place out of the area.)

A reporter interviewed some of the residents of the trailer park right after they heard the news.  (This article was in the paper too.)  The ones they talked to were really worried, not knowing what they were going to do. 

One resident was disabled.  Another had no way to move any of her things to another place.

I know for a fact (my brother and I researched the cost of living in a trailer park recently when trying to decide where to live after the house we were living in was sold) that even trailer parks can be expensive around here, and there aren’t too many places that have spots available.  And they interview you too, at least in one trailer park in the area. 

I’ve had experience with interviews here. 

Maybe it’s just that once you’re over 50, you are not considered to be worth hiring for anything anymore.  But I know a young man who hasn’t been able to get work for years because of a blot on his record from something he did when he was a teenager.  After a while (I know this from experience), you just give up and don’t even apply for jobs or anything else anymore.

There may be reasons they have not been able to move!

(The city doesn’t allow RV’s to park just everywhere, either, not even in the ritzier sections of town.)

Along the way they’ve also had blurbs in the paper about these trailer park residents who were displaced.  Just enough articles to cause me to remember…

I seem to remember reading that one of the residents had not moved out when the time was up, and his or her things were put in the dump or something.  (Eviction proceedings, no doubt.) 

Sort of treated like rats in the park, I would say.   You’re not really people, if you’re poor enough.  The place you leave can just decide something else is more important and force you out, just like that.

One winter in Boston, I worked in a homeless shelter that was set up in a church.  A lot of people who stayed there at night had ratty and torn clothes, so I brought my sewing machine one day and offered to fix anyone’s clothes that needed to be fixed.

The few possessions of a homeless person are as precious to him as our houses and cars and expensive possessions are valuable to the rest of us, I discovered.  Maybe more.

One guy needed his jacket fixed, but he was unwilling even to take it off so I could fix it.  He was afraid of letting it go.

I guess he’d had experience with people taking his things if he let someone else have them for one reason or another?  And his jacket with a big hole in it, in the middle of a very cold winter, was more important to him than a fixed jacket, if it had to go through someone else’s hands to get fixed.  He might not get it back, you know!

Another preferred his old ratty socks to brand new ones when they were offered to him.  (I don’t understand that one.  These homeless people do a lot of walking, and a good pair of socks can make all the difference in how comfortable your feet are in your shoes when you walk!)

It doesn’t matter to some people that these are human beings–”we have programs”.

Programs that make them dependent?  What kind of programs?

If it’s a program to help someone learn to do something himself or herself, that might be a good thing, providing there is also lifestyle transition help as well.  (They’d have to learn to fit into at least a middle-income person’s lifestyle in order to be acceptable, in our country.  That’s a far cry from the kind of lifestyle they’ve learned to have.)

However, I see a lot of the programs sponsored by more liberal-minded people as simply being a way to get us out of their sight.

A way to keep them from feeling guilty because they are unwilling to help the unfortunate, themselves.

As a society, we live in Disneyland.  Lots of shooting stars, clean streets, lots of fantasies…we are not going to allow any poor people, trashy yards, homeless people, or handicapped people, or dead people.  (At least out in the open, where everyone can see them…even though all of us will die, at least eventually!)

…Keep the “less valuable” people out of the sight of the rest of us, even if the only thing the well-off might show more value in is ”large amounts of cash”.

If this hulaballoo was about people who had a lot of money or who were going to build a mall for the city so they could get tax income from it, they would have rights.  You know they would!

Why does the fact that someone has nice clothes and jobs mean that they are any better at being quality human beings than people who don’t?  (I’ve noticed an awful lot of higher-up people making news lately simply because they’ve misused the “system” in a way that cost the people of America big-time!)

The typical solution to getting rid of the “druggies” here is to “clean up or fix up the houses they live in and they’ll move out.”  (Maybe because the rent goes up too and they can no longer afford to live there?)

Are our heads in the sand?  Unless the druggies commit suicide, they are going to have to be alive somewhere.  Just forcing them out does not solve the problem–it only shifts the problem to some other place, where it might become even worse in the long run. 

And it could very well come back to us again in another form that we’ll hate more–like having them camp out on the median strips near our downtown areas, or mugging people in the streets so they can find enough money to eat or shoot up with.

I think that unless we can come up with a “win-win” solution for everyone, we’re not going to have a permanent one.

And if, in the process of cleaning things up, we force people to be dependent on the “system”, we’re going to have to put up with a few people camping out in places that make our town look slummy when there’s some kind of an upset. 

Once you get used to be taken care of, it’s hard to think or do what you need to do for yourself anymore!

If Mom and Dad don’t teach the kids how to handle life’s situations before they leave home, those kids might just stay at home with them for the next 30 years. 

Doing things for other people that they should be doing for themselves does them no favors.  It’s training they need to be able to manage life on their own.  If you just dump them out on the street without the training in managing life, “street life” may be all they can hope for…or all we can hope for.

Maybe that’s what we want?  What happens when Mom and Dad pass on?

These are people–not rats. 

People–not cats you can conveniently dump when the next apartment you move to doesn’t allow pets.

And even if they were cats.  Cats who grow dependent on the care of a human being don’t necessarily learn to fend for themselves if they are dumped outside.  They have learned to look to human beings for something to eat, and they are then prime candidates for being abused.  Cats tend to try to find a human to feed them or take care of them once they have been “domesticated”.

My sister had one of those abused and abandoned creatures show up on her doorstep.  Poor thing.  

(The cat, I mean).

Even someone without a home is worth something.  They might even be worth more than the buildings we plan to put up instead of them!

I wish I had more money.  I’d do what I could to help out, if only to buy some land just outside city limits for some of them to park their ratty RV’s or set up their tents on.

Doing things for people is probably not the permanent answer, though.

Yes, there may be more of us than we even know who will need a bit of assistance someday.  There should be temporary help available for those of us who need help with the bumps in life now and then.

But there has to be a desire for something to happen and a participation/cooperation of sorts on the part of the receiver as well.

There’s a time to give handouts, but at some point, there’s also a time to require someone to stand on his or her own two feet.  (Maybe through a system that actually has work they can do and then requires them to do work–if physically and mentally able to do so–to receive the help.)

When I worked at the Salvation Army, part of my job was deciding who deserved emergency help, based on the stories of the people who came for assistance.

Sometimes their stories were so good, I couldn’t tell the difference between someone who was truly needy and someone who was just stringing me along.

Captain Ross was really helpful in this respect.  He said that for people who are continually poor, there is often a network in place through which they can usually find something to meet their need, even if I didn’t give it to them.  Just watch, he said.  If you don’t give help to them, now and then you’ll get a glimpse of them finding a way to get that bus ticket, or whatever–through someone in their own little network.

You give help to someone like that with a good story, and the next 30 people who come in will have almost exactly the same story. 

You then will have figured it out that they have figured out what works to get you to help them. 

They’ve learned to be survivors. 

Most people do what they have to do–they figure out strategies that work, then pass the word on.   And that’s what the ones who came for assistance from the Salvation Army did.

That’s not to say I shouldn’t help people, or that all of them can manage to find their own way.  They may truly have needed the help–and a good many of the rest of us may very well need emergency help someday ourselves.  That person who came for help may be from out of town, and know no one to whom he or she can turn.

The networks of the poor don’t usually extend to places outside of their own local areas.  A lot of them don’t even own a computer, where networking can make things happen for a lot of the rest of us.

But maybe there needs to be a better way than just cutting someone off if they show evidence of “abusing the system”.  After all, that’s the way they’ve learned to fend for themselves.  All of us have to figure out how to do that, at what ever station in life we may reside.

There needs to be a channel opened to them that is a more healthy way of learning to get those needs met.  And then it needs to really work for them, or they won’t do it for long.

Who Should Get Help?

If I was in doubt as to who should get help, the Captain said, I was supposed to give them a test. 

I should give them a broom and ask them to sweep the porch, or give them some other small job that needed to be done there. 

If they said “no thanks, I’ll look elsewhere”, you’d know they were “undeserving” (unless they were physically unable to do the work or something such).  I’d know that we were just part of their system for survival without their having to work for it. 

If they gladly did the work, I was to have no qualms about giving the assistance to them.  That seemed to be the defining line, to me, ever after. 

If someone is willing to work, and I have the resources to help them when they say they need help, I’ll do whatever I can to help them get to a place where they can be self-sufficient. 

We do people no favors when we allow them to live on welfare without corresponding responsibility.  Yes, it may take a transition period to really help them get to where they need to go.  But our government can no longer afford to support the masses when the masses are really capable of fending for themselves with the right system in place–a system that they can understand and live with too.

Let’s Change the Presidential Campaign System!

One thing I think needs a makeover in America is the campaign system for running for President.

How about a Presidential Olympics?

As in sports-type olympics, each candidate would demonstrate what THEY would or could do if they were President.

(For those who’d done such things before, they could certainly do them again, couldn’t they?)

No candidate could base their campaign on what any other candidate did wrong. 

Though it’s important to have the discrepancies pointed out, any of those questions could be given to a trusted (by both sides), unbiased (politically and personally to any candidate) person or team who would be employed solely to discover the answers to every question posed to the campaign, including from the candidates themselves about other candidates.

No candidate would be allowed to fund his or her own campaign.  Period.  All of it would come from the same pool of funds. 

If any person wanted to contribute to the campaign event, it could not be given to any one candidate; all funds received would be divided equally among all candidates.

We do not need to have the Presidency bought, simply by one’s ability to flood the media with ads.  What we need is to be able to see what kind of a President we’d have if we voted for him or her, and we should even be able to annul someone’s Presidency if they turned out to be someone they did not claim to be.

Advertisers don’t get by with deceptive advertising–there are laws about that!

Why should politicians be able to get by with it?

Each candidate would, with no help from anyone else, have to come up with a program that did something good for America, demonstrated who they were and what they stood for, and that represented exactly what he or she would propose to do for America if elected.

If the candidate’s program showed the nation that they could raise $300,000,000 for their campaign, then that candidate would be expected to continue to raise money for the country throughout the Presidency.  That’s what they’d be showing America they’d be doing for us, and America could use the help with the economy!

All the money from the pool of funds for this olympics would be spent on organizing the events, funding the Presidential programs, videotaping the processes, and interviewing the participants. Tests could be given to each candidate for integrity, honesty, ability to select good people for different roles, and for what they would do in various Presidential situations as a part of it.

Travel and speeches would not even need to be a part of the campaign.  Besides, don’t most of these candidates have jobs that are getting neglected by their having to travel continuously around the country?  (You know, jobs in the senate or something.)

Perhaps as a part of the test, each candidate could be given a day of presiding over typical Presidential situations, and there could be some kind of a manufactured “disaster” they would have to manage.  The results would be included in the part that would be aired at the end–and it would all be on videotape.

Ability to effectively incorporate current trends into the presentation might be a valuable part of it. Instead of candidates spending all their time accusing each other, they might even have fun!  (Entertainment is one of the big trends now.) And voters would have a chance to see as well as hear about what each would do in various possible situations important to our country.

As they say, a picture’s worth a thousand words!

At the end, maybe the top winners could have a final debate about issues voters might bring up, and then the videotapes would be shown on TV and the internet across the nation, and everyone could then vote. 

If a candidate expresses him- or herself better through some other medium than speech, I’d say they should “go for it!” 

If they could write a song that tells us what their Presidency could do for America, it might be more effective than a speech.

Maybe they could paint a picture depicting the point of what they would do by contrasting what “was” with “what will be” with him in it.

…or write a play based on issues you’d address and have your supporters help you stage it, demonstrating how you’d deal with them.

Why do I think we need a campaign system change?

When the only candidates for President are Caucasian men, the current system might be acceptable. However, within the same election we now have a black man with an Arab name running for President (with plenty of unknowns about him) and a beautiful Pentecostal Christian woman in the running as Vice President.

I see certain aspects of culture coming into play that did not exist in Presidential elections before. And I believe their presence in the current campaign structure could keep voters from making the right decisions about who to elect for President.

In American culture, there are social boundaries one cannot now cross if he or she wishes to be seen as having proper taste and decorem. I saw two of those boundaries present within the current campaign. There are also two religious aspects present that need to be addressed in a better way.

I happen to be a Bible-believing Christian who goes to church every Sunday and gets e-mail from Christians on political subjects. I have been in church somewhere, nearly every Sunday of my whole life, and I talk to others in the Christian community on a regular basis.

So I know something about how anxious some Christians are about having a black man with an Arab-sounding name (along with a lot of other things we’ve heard and still don’t really know about him) becoming President of the United States.

I have heard Mr. Obama make fun of us in his speeches, ridiculing us for even thinking he could have Muslim ties.  (Even though there are YouTube videos of him supporting his Muslim cousin Odinga in his Kenyan campaign to bring a terrorist regime there.)

I personally think there are some legitimate reasons for our fear, and there may be some reasons he should be addressing our fears seriously.

I can’t speak for all other Christians on this, but I know that some publications regularly reveal that Christians and Jewish people are aggressively persecuted in many countries that are predominantly Muslim. 

Back in the 1980’s, I also had a friend from Iran (Farzan F., a graduate student I knew when I worked in a college setting) who told me that the woman he’d marry would be considered a possession, like a cow.

As a woman, I think of what could happen to women here, as well, if there should be a change to that way of doing things.

After 9/11, a commentator on TV said that it was a goal of the Muslim community to have a Muslim President within a decade, or something like that. Some of us still remember and have other input as well. It is hard not to connect the dots!

What I’m saying here:  It seems to be politically and socially incorrect to ask the kinds of questions we Christians feel we might need to ask now. 

Why is that?  I think we have every right to know about a person who’s running for President, whatever his skin color might be.

Okay, let’s be fair here. Sarah Palin created another kind of difficulty for the other side. Right after John McCain announced she would be his running-mate, it seemed to me that Barak Obama had something of a struggle in knowing how to address the situation with a woman like her in it without being seen as engaging in a social impropriety. And after the Vice-Presidential debate, a commentator thought that Joe Biden might not have been as aggressive as he otherwise might have been because he was debating a woman.

Verbal abuse in the campaigns has gotten out of hand. 

I think we need a system that does not allow abuse, whether by candidates or by their supporters.

Candidates should not be allowed to attack their competitors, any more than companies are legally allowed to attack their competitors in ads now.  When one candidate does it, the other candidate feels obligated to reciprocate or voters might think those accusations were true!

We need a team of unbiased mediators to field and research questions about candidates that come up–mediators that are not related at all to the media, and not supported by any one party. 

And I think every American needs to have access to the information after it has been researched, presented in a way anyone can understand in plain English.

Some seem to enjoy our present kind of setting for a campaign.

To me, it’s an example of the wrong kind to the young and demonstrates a spirit of war. In these volatile times, do we really need that?

And the way it is now, only the wealthy can ever hope to compete for the Presidency. 

(You know it’s true.) 

What if the undisclosed donations (which by law don’t have to be disclosed under certain conditions) come from terrorist organizations?  They very well could have!

There seems to be no specific law about where donations come from, as long as they are under a certain dollar amount.  Isn’t that true, or have I been misled?

We need a change in our campaign system for that reason alone!

While we are at it, maybe we need a better selection of candidates.  And we need a system that would allow anyone in the country who was truly qualified to run for President, even if they only had a small budget.  That DOES mean whoever-it-is would have to be a bonafide American citizen to start with!!!

And I think there should be proof that whoever runs has the majority of his or her connections with people who have been proved to do good things for people who are even different than he or she is.

The Presidency is too important to be decided based on which candidate markets himself or herself the best. This is a critical position; the one who fills it decides the future of our nation. Throughout the campaign process this year, there have been comments that one or the other was not ready to lead the nation, or whatever.

How can there even be questions like that?  Surely every candidate has been screened by knowledgeable, trustworthy people first?

There should be pre-screening and tests given to candidates in the same way employers might do it when hiring employees.

Those who do not fulfill the basic requirements should not even be in the running at all.

Businesses would not survive if they followed a hiring process similar to the way our campaigns are run.  Even people who look really good can sometimes disappoint you. 

We need to thoroughly check people’s backgrounds first before we believe them, because anyone can truly be anything.

I worked for The Salvation Army (about 1980).  It just so happened that I was their second hiree past a lovely (supposedly outstanding Christian) lady employee who embezzled $50,000 from their books.  According to the story, when she heard the auditor was coming, she took the Captain out for lunch and set fire under the books just before she went.  The building burned while they ate. 

(Nice.)

You can bet the Captain screened every succeeding candidate for the position thoroughly after that.  If he had only checked with this lady’s previous employer, he’d have found that she had done some funny things with the books there, too!

Putting our heads in the sand CAN hurt us sometimes. 

We need a better way to “hire a President” than just assuming that someone with a golden tongue has the right heart to go with it!

Let’s Fix the Economy–With A New Kind of Currency!

Because for most of history men have typically been the ones to work and receive money in exchange for it, I see the current money system as being more “male” in the way it is valued.  Pay for jobs (”bringing home the bacon”) used to be something mostly men needed to receive, in the form of “more pay for better skills”, and such, to pay the bills for the family.

Women’s work, by contrast, tends toward favoring human/interpersonal values more than skilled labor.  (When you have mountains of dishes to do, and you want to get through them before you have to take kids for ball practice, you may not focus on doing a sterling job.  You might just figure it needs to get done, however it needs to happen!)

With women working now and doing more than ever in our culture, the boundaries are not as clear.  Some of the work that receives pay is nursing and other professions that are more in line with women’s traditional value in society–helping and nurturing life.

There are aspects of our monetary system that have been around for so long that I wonder if most of us even think about them anymore?

Money is really just a symbol. It’s just one tangible way to figure out a simple transfer of real value for any of the multitudes of interactions by human beings that are considered by any two people to mean something between them.

Gold–the standard upon which money relies for its value–is in limited supply.  Though I have no way of knowing for sure, I’d venture to say the amount we have in the world altogether might even be disproportionate to the number of people in the world.

…There might even be lots more people in the world than when we first started using gold as the basis of our currency. 

Do we keep getting more gold to keep the value of our money steady, or is each dollar now worth less because we have to divide the dollars we have among lots more people and lots more jobs?

I don’t know anything about how much gold America has compared to the dollars that are available for spending.  Either the U.S. Treasury doesn’t make that fact known very often, or I just don’t see it in the paper when they talk about it.

Maybe other countries don’t use gold for their standard of value?  (I’m not too familiar with this topic.)

Or maybe we just have the amount of value our government says we have, and it doesn’t depend on how much gold we have at all.

I submit to you that maybe we are using the wrong thing for our standard of value for money.  Money just doesn’t cover value in every situation or every place.

Money, between two people on a deserted island, is worth nothing.  It’s only the time and skills possessed by each person and what they do for each other with those things that is worth anything, on that island.  And they probably won’t need to have great math skills to figure out the balance of who owes whom what, there.  (That’s a penful.)  That’s why they wouldn’t need money there.

Volunteer work is sometimes seen as having no value, since it is not paid work.

Sometimes volunteer work is worth far more, in my opinion, especially if it is done for someone else with no thought of reward, and possibly when they won’t even take a reward when it’s offered.

When “Volunteer” Work is Worth More Than Money

There’s a certain person I heard a story about while I was in Montana recently.  [My (very honest) brother and his family live there, and he was telling me about something this man did one day.]

This person is known to just about everyone who buys software or does things on the internet, I’d venture to say.  He has lots and lots and lots of money.  But since this is third-hand information, I can’t vouch for its total accuracy, and I think it would be better if he vouched for this himself if he wanted it known.

(He might not want even part of the country to know about this.)

He knows the value of a dollar, as he probably had a say in how much money he charged for the software he sold.  And it made him enough money to make him rich, I’d say.

He would not spend his money recklessly, I’m pretty sure, giving money for something that was worth nothing.  How would anyone come to have as much money as he has unless he knew how to manage his money?

Anyway, according to the story, he was driving through the upper part of Montana one day and his vehicle broke down.

If you don’t know anything about Montana, let me just say that you can drive hours and hours at high speed between towns there sometimes without seeing anything of market value.  My brothers could vouch for that.

In the particular part of the state I’m talking about, it’s about 90 miles to the closest town of any size from there, at least to find places where you might be able to buy things like car parts at a moment’s notice, perhaps.  At least be sure of finding them without having to order parts.

Generally speaking, even the largest cities there are small compared to lots of other places in America.

Well, the traveler of this story must have needed to get somewhere by a certain time.  I’m not sure why.

His vehicle broke down somewhere on that long stretch of highway.

Some old farmer guy who lived in the vicinity of my brother (he could have been 50 miles away, maybe) helped him out and got him back on the road, and wouldn’t take any money for it, even when pressed to do so.

But after our traveler got back on the road, he didn’t let it rest there.  He did some research and discovered that the guy who’d helped him was going through some hard times financially and had an outstanding mortgage.

He decided to pay off the mortgage of the old farmer who had helped him.

I ask you.  How much money was the gift of help to get back on the road worth to this traveler?

I submit to you that the real value we should be thinking of for our currency is not gold at all.  It’s the value of a person’s time, willingly given for the cause of helping someone else out.

And not all of the value is in the time someone gives.  Some of it is the smile that comes along with it.  Some of it is going the extra mile, finding out what else we can do for the one we are helping, and also the ability to know when enough is enough, already.

Sometimes it’s a matter of being available, of “being there” when no one else is.  Sometimes it’s keeping your commitment to your spouse when he or she is sick and desperately in need of your help, when it would be so much easier and fun to abandon them.

I expect it might help your credit rating if you abandoned your loved one, as statistics say that overwhelming medical bills are among the top reasons people go bankrupt in America today.  If you didn’t stick with him or her, you might be able to distance yourself from the consequences of his or her illness.

It seems like a loyalty like that might be worth an infinite amount of money to a sick person.  (But you know how some people are–they’re not happy with anything you do for them.  Just see how some people who rescue victims from thugs in New York City are sued by the ones who rescue them.)

Recently there was a young man who waited on me in the grocery store.  After he gave me my change, he stopped smiling and turned away, even when he practically bumped into me afterwards and I tried to smile at him.

Maybe he was just having a bad day.  But if I was not already pretty much committed to doing my shopping at that store, I might have made a decision to go somewhere else next time. 

Getting good customer service is that important to me, even if it costs a little more.  And often, it’s the intangibles of the situation that mean the most to me, as a woman.

The value of business goes up when some of these intangibles are present.  One thing that might have something to do with that:  Women do 80% of the shopping in this country, according to a study I saw recently.  Women appreciate the little things like good service and a smile, even after the transaction is over. The more these intangibles become a part of a business person’s or service person’s style, the more businesses in this country might thrive.

They do make a difference.

Male and Female Aspects of Currency

It seems to me that parts of our current money system are trying to cover the bases for some of the more needed “female” aspects of society, while keeping only the “male” aspects of the money system in place.  (It might be trying to cover more than it’s really capable of.)

I’m thinking that perhaps the money system could be managed more successfully if it was divided in two, so that there was another form of currency that “balanced” it out.

I’m suggesting a new currency be formed that had built-in rewards favoring women’s typical functions in society, but still able to give us all (whoever participated) things we needed.

The main problem I see with our economy/money system right now is trust.  And I think what we need is a way to balance it with what could typically be considered some right-brained kinds of things like female values.

I know, lots of men do ethically correct things, too.  But even the saying “boys will be boys” tells me that society would condone a man being “a bad boy” before it would condone a woman being “a bad woman”.

Nature Functions Best when there is a Balance in Place

Where there is a male part, there needs to be a female counterpart to balance it out.  That is as true for money (a man-made system based on a standard of gold) as it is for anything else in the world.

It’s the way we use anything, including money, that causes it to need balance, since it has no real value of its own.  It’s just a symbol of value we’ve created, now a part of a complex system,  so there can be an even exchange of value to provide for needs.

Just like in marriage, a “female” system could simply provide a different balance during times of normal monetary stress. When one is down, the other is up and provides the means of going on together.  (All money functions seem to cycle, having higher value sometimes and lower value at other times.)  When the “male” money system ebbed in value, the “female” currency might start to flow more strongly, until the “male” side was able to come back up.

I believe, from having heard older people talk about the Great Depression, that elements of this idea for a “female currency” were present in the way many Great Depression survivors were able to manage life in their time of need.  In its simplest form, if you were passing through and needed a meal and a place to stay for the night, some farmer might give it to you if you agreed to help with the haying or fixing the fence.   It was considered to be an equal exchange, based on something other than money–compassion, food, and labor being the elements of exchange involved.  This is a form of an alternate currency outside of the money system, if you will.

I know, it sounds like barter, but this system would be more than that, because it would incorporate into the amount of it needed values that would encourage trust and a rating system that would help to balance the current money system.

This system would just organize things ahead of time so everyone who needed to could benefit through a previously-set-up networking system, particularly during times of greater economic stress.

The system I suggest would make use of the concept of “being a good neighbor”, except it would be used in this way:  “you help me, I help you, but if you break my trust, I’ll probably help you a little less.”

The “trust” part is something eBay.com and Amazon.com have incorporated into their companies with great success.  That could be used in this system, too, but with a little updating.  (eBay’s feedback system would not work exactly right for this system the way it is, I think.)

This is How the Honorable Poor Survive

Though most people who have all they need may not be aware of this level in society, I’ve had a chance to see how some of the honest poor here survive–by networking in a similar way to what I am about to suggest.

As we know, not every poor person uses honorable means to survive. Other poor people may survive by robbing banks or homes, by depending entirely on welfare or churches to help (though I suspect any one of us could need this kind of help at times and getting help from it would be appropriate then), or by manipulation or fraud.

When I left Boston to move across the country, I discovered it was going to cost me way more than I’d imagined. I decided to sell as much as I could and ship the rest of my things through FedEx, UPS, and USPS.

But there are some things you can’t send that way, and sometimes you can’t even give things away without a lot of hard work and a fair amount of time to get the word out…and that’s when I discovered what a great network my dear friend Rosana had.

Rosana…(of Brazilian heritage, but now a U.S. citizen)…financially, she lives on the edge of what appears to be financial disaster in a way I have never seen. And she ends up moving so often that practically everything she has fits into a suitcase.  She has come to like it that way, as things happen overnight sometimes and she often finds she needs to move quickly.

Part of her secret is that she has a faith like I have seldom seen, too.  God answers her prayers in ways most of us have not even needed to have prayers answered.

She has a spartan existence compared to most of the people I know, something I expect most of us would not choose. But her network of friends is extensive.

During the last two or three months I was in Boston, just because I was a friend of hers, somehow she pulled up resources for me from everywhere to help me move, through friends, through a church, through other connections.

Did I need to get rid of a mattress? She had a friend who needed one (you can’t legally sell used mattresses there). Did I need a place to stay for a few days after the end of the month, after I moved out? She found me a place. Did I need a job? Somehow, she found someone who needed my services so I could make a little money before I left.

I know–setting up a currency based on this kind of thing probably sounds like socialism, too. But I submit to you that it is not, because in this system, we would all have a choice, and it’s actually more like a combination of barter and compassion and trust…and a money system all its own, interacting with the normal part of the money system.  And we would be doing the work ourselves.  We would not be a slave to what might turn out to be someone else’s ideology or over-control.

Just as nobody says you have to earn money if you don’t want or need to, nobody would say you had to earn this kind of currency if you didn’t want to. I do think if such a system was in place, society might very well start to expect us to have some connections with it, but I think at least most of the middle-class and those below it might also find that there were enough benefits that we would want to be a part of it.

Just as a brain functions best if there is smooth interaction between the left and the right sides of the brain, I believe the whole system would work best if each person participated in both kinds of currency on some level. It would then give a better balance. It could also be a learning experience for everyone, rich or poor.  The poor would have to learn to manage their money better, and the money-rich could benefit from the network and the value system if they also contributed in other ways.

Volunteer Club

My overall idea for balancing the money system is in the form of a “volunteer club” that would come close to being parallel to (say) motor clubs like AAA.

For people who worked (verified) volunteer hours and were a part of the “club”, there would be certain benefits, such as free or partly-free health care; possibly getting higher amounts in their social security checks; such as being entitled to have a percentage of one’s rent deducted, depending on the landlord (participating landlords could both give and also receive benefits for allowing deductions in rent) from total rent owed.  Those kinds of things.

The “club” would not only give benefits to volunteers who gave time to approved charities, projects, and functions or good deeds done for others (verified by other people who speak up for them, perhaps, but hopefully more than one, to eliminate fraud), but would also coordinate volunteer efforts of its own according to the current needs in our country.

Redefining “Volunteer”

I would suggest expanding the meaning of “volunteer” somewhat to include duties seen as being part of one’s responsibilities in our society.

Perhaps part of the problem in our country now is that not everyone sees certain responsibilities to others as being essential. (You know, like paying child support.)

Perhaps having a balancing system might have saved some Enron workers a lot of money if leaders’ honesty had had to be rated through a system like this.

If you were a good dad or good mom and found ways to make the relationship between you work, you’d get a certain number of points under this system.  It’s the cohesive unit between a man and a woman that provides a stable foundation for our adults of the future.

Studies have shown that sometimes broken homes or lack of attention to the kids can contribute to such things as the making of criminals and to mental health problems: a single mom or dad can’t do it all when it comes to raising kids, and with all a single parent’s kid’s free time and a need to belong somewhere, many of them end up in gangs, learn criminal ways, or make heroes out of the wrong kind of people. Our country could save big bucks by cutting down on the number of criminals it needs to house in prisons alone!

I know it’s not always possible to do this, and it’s not necessarily someone’s fault if they can’t do it, but if you cared for your elderly parents yourself instead of sending them to a nursing home, you might get a certain number of volunteer points per quarter.

My family knows it costs about $70,000 per year to care for one person at one of our local nursing homes, and Medicaid (the government/our taxes) takes care of much of that expense after the person’s money runs out.  Though there are some good nursing homes, I’m not convinced that they necessarily do any better job than most families could, if their houses were set up properly to accommodate them!

How This Currency Would Function

Gold-standard-money                           Volunteer-standard money

Rewards skill, scarcity                           Rewards time spent, compassion, integrity
Taxes paid with money                         Taxes paid as a percentage of volunteer hours given
Represented by coins, dollar bills         Figured as an official percentage, to adjust value of money
Negative reinforcement (sometimes)    Positive reinforcement (sometimes)
Pay to have house built (example)        Get volunteer help building a house (as barter)
 
 

In order to understand this concept, let’s review what is usually seen as being true of the typical woman.  I see a typical woman as participating in things like this:

  • Cooking
  • Cleaning House
  • Cleaning up the messes both the kids and the husband might make, and/or training them to do it themselves
  • Coordinating all functions of the household
  • Sewing
  • Saving you money! (Women do most of the shopping in this country–lots of men just don’t like to do it. And often, women are the ones who pinch the pennies to make ends meet!)
  • Moving the furniture (’cause it would look better or fit better somewhere else)
  • Resolving the kids’ squabbles
  • Counseling (career, marriage, schooling…) (Dads do this too)
  • Going to bat for the kids–or referring problems to dad when they’ve been bad so he can administer discipline if necessary
  • Living the longest
  • Going to church/religion/nurturing spiritual values
  • Volunteering for charities, helping neighbors, sharing produce with friends
  • Networking
  • Confronting abuse/maintaining and encouraging social standards
  • Talking/gossiping with friends on the phone
  • Flexing between full-time homemaking, part-time jobs, or full-time jobs, depending on the needs of the family
  • Filling in gaps in the world around her
  • Right-braining/intuiting (vs. logic, which is typically seen as being a man’s domain)
  • Expressing emotions, working at relationships
  • Praising others when they have accomplishments
  • Bringing life into the world and takes care of most of the nurturing until that life is mature
  • Civilizing society–stopping the abuse, reducing the aggression
  • Listening to the heart of what’s going on
  • Helping the poor
  • Imagination
  • Helping her husband find the keys…

Etc.–you get the picture.

Men and women both do volunteer work–but I think it’s most often seen as being in a woman’s domain, at least until men retire.

Volunteer work is seen as receiving “no pay”, and therefore some people see it as being of less value. You have to be paid money in order to show that what you do is worth something. Right?

I disagree: the main element I see of value in volunteering is that everyone gets paid the same: nothing, as in no money!

Volunteer work could potentially be a basis for an entirely different kind of co-currency that would encompass a typical woman’s/right-brain values: religion, intuition, emotions, counseling, art, ethics, honesty, integrity, and such.

It would give a value to the volunteer hours people worked in the same way as we now give value to gold in our monetary system. Everyone’s pay would be the same: an hour of your time equals an hour of mine, to start with.

One thing ALL of us have is 24 hours a day, as long as we live. That is one thing that will always be equal, and we each have a choice as to what we do with our time.

This is one resource (time) that we can all share with others in one way or another–even the disabled or less mentally capable can do some valuable things with their time sometimes, even if it’s just to lend a hand helping us carry something or stick something on a page with glue to make a bulletin board or something.

It would depend on their disability, of course, what they could do.  And some of them are better at smiling and making the world a pleasant place to be than some of us who physically or mentally function a little better.

Some people who were originally considered mentally or physically disabled have been discovered to have musical gifts or abilities to remember facts that most of the rest of us can’t even fathom!

I know a lady with Downs Syndrome who (much to my surprise at first) knows how to read, operate computer programs on a basic level (she loves the computer!), write out Bible lessons in a notebook, follow directions, and has had training in handling money and some clerical functions.

If (say) some secretarial positions were typically divided up a little differently, I could see people like her getting some of the more routine jobs that tend to become boring to some of the rest of us (but that are fun to her), and the remaining, more challenging, jobs could be given to others.  It would make everyone’s jobs more interesting and challenging!

Acknowledging that a part of every job we do depends on being able to trust the person we do it for, and vice versa, I think it’s fair to divide up the value of our currency into these two parts:  skills value and trust value (male and female parts).

In the Great Depression, you can bet that that farmer would not have allowed a transient to come in his house or help him in the fields if he didn’t trust him to display a level of decency and goodwill to himself, his wife and his children.  Trust is half of the value of any interaction, whether it’s stated or not.

Suggested Use

Under a different system, money could  perhaps be devalued to 50% of what it was before, starting a couple weeks after the changeover to the new system.  The value of Volunteer currency could then kick in for the remaining 50% of the value of money.

This value for the volunteer part would not just be about volunteering.  It would be about fulfilling our roles, roles upon which others depend for their well-being in some way. The resulting value of money for most of us, I think, might still be worth a lot more than that 50%.

People could get volunteer value points for things like service with a smile (while bagging groceries, waiting on tables in a restaurant or collecting carts in a parking lot–sometimes intangibles determine where people choose to do business, and we want them to do well!), getting to an appointment on time (unless there was a valid excuse like a 7-hour traffic jam), taking carts in the parking lot back inside (this might save some companies so much in employee time otherwise needed for rounding them up that they could cut prices!), visiting old folks in a nursing home, shoveling a walk for a neighbor, etc.

“Mystery volunteers” could be dispatched at random to various places to collect names of people who are doing good things:  putting their doggy’s doo-doos in a bag while walking in the park, mowing their lawns (for the sake of those who need things to look nice), showing kindness to their children, etc.
Some people could be given small cash awards on the spot for their good deeds, just to make things interesting.

This could be a great incentive for the homeless and others who just needed to make a little extra money–through the club, they could perhaps pick up litter, or doggy doo-doos in the park that doggy owners did not, mow lawns for senior citizens who called the “club” asking for someone to do it, or rake leaves, etc., after registering with the volunteer club and getting verification from someone who would know that they fulfilled their volunteer obligations. 

The lives of a lot of us would be a little more pleasant as a result.

Good Health Habits

Nutrition and fitness might also fall in the category of female values (got to train the kids of the kountry right, you know!)

Suppose you kept (as proof) grocery receipts that showed you bought a good balance of foods in each necessary food group.  However, you never exercised.  In this case, you might get 3 points for being nutritionally adequate, but none for proper exercise.

If you then decided to exercise 3 times a week for 30 minutes or more (verified by the gym, walking groups, etc.), you could get 3 volunteer points each week (one for each time you did it).

These points, registered with the volunteer club and verified by someone designated to check on you periodically, could be given to your doctor’s office as proof of nutrition and “exercise co-pay”.  That could be worth a hefty discount off medical expenses, as it’s been proven that people who take care of their health usually have significantly lower medical costs, if only for the amount of drugs they need to use.

Even people who do all they can for their health, though, have problems sometimes.  For the times they do need help, they could receive a good discount, I hope.  (See the “Health Care” section below.)

There are lots of other things you could get points for, and you probably would if you simply took good care of the people and normal responsibilities in your life, like paying your child support when due and taking your child to the doctor when she needed to go.  I’ll mention a few other things further on.

Any of those things could raise the value of any volunteer hours, too:

  • Suppose you buy (and eat) verifiably good food in proper proportions and exercise 3 times a week for at least 30 minutes each.  (6 points)
  • You take your grocery cart all the way back into the store and get 2 points, because a mystery volunteer saw you and took down your name for the Club.
  • You gave service with a smile (2 points), as you were putting your cart away
  • Your grocery store was a “mystery volunteer” the day you went in and when they gave you too much change, you were honest and gave it back.  (10 points for honesty) (and the store would get points too to help offset any change they lost)
  • You worked 20 volunteer hours as well during October.  For that month, you’d earn 20 volunteer hours. 
  • Then extra value might be figured out for each volunteer in the form of a “quotient”.   (Disclaimer:  A precise method should be decided later by a team of accountants or others who could figure something more expertly than I could.)

Everyone would start with a “1″ quotient at the beginning of the month and values/points would be added to or subtracted from the “1″ for that month).

  • 6 points for healthy living practices, plus
  • 2 points for grocery cart care, plus
  • 2 points for service with a smile, and
  • 10 points for honesty…

equals 20 points, which would be added onto the “1″.  Your quotient for that month would then be 1.20.

You also worked 20 volunteer hours.  To get the total value, you’d multiply 20 x 1.20, for a total of 24.0.

Feedback would also be recorded specifically for the various things you did right, so (say) employers or banks could check it and feel more confident they could trust you.  It’s nice to keep things simple like eBay does for feedback ratings, but some things would be more important than others when it came to trust value.  Therefore, I think feedback received should be divided up into more specific categories than eBay and displayed in our accounts late enough that even things that happen later might also be taken into account when figuring the ratings.

ANYWAY, you now have 24 volunteer hours saved up. You could choose to:

  • save these hours in your volunteer hours account for later (you might need people to come take care of you in your old age), or
  • take out the value “in kind” (say, having someone else come mow your yard in exchange for part of your 24 hours, or
  • trade your volunteer hours for an item listed in the exchange part of the volunteer club, or
  • have the value of them put into a card (something like a pre-loaded Visa card) and, using it along with money or a check or a credit card, have it increase the value of any money you spend up to a certain amount, depending on how many hours you volunteered, or
  • get discounts on healthcare (or free healthcare) from clinics based on number of volunteer hours worked, or values from other businesses (who would also get tax discounts for accepting the cards, or further value from using volunteers to do certain jobs for them)
  • etc.

This is how it might work.

  • Each person would have to sign up to belong to the “volunteer club”, which would oversee the coordination of a certain number of volunteer activities and keep track of logs of any volunteer activity in charities & churches
  • “Volunteer hour” value could apply to to individuals, to businesses, and to any other entity that gives and receives money.  This value would increase and decrease, depending on how closely what the individual or entity did was of value to our country or to individuals in it.

Ethics (a female value according to this system) might come into play in a situation like this:

  • Suppose a chicken corporation packs live chickens into cages, so they are never able to run around or do what chickens usually do.  These chickens might get irritable from never being able to move around. To relieve the tension, they peck each other, causing each other wounds.  The wounds lead to infections, which lead to sickness and sometimes death.
  • So the company keeps them on antibiotics to keep down infections and to keep as much of their meat in a state that can be sold.
  • People might get sick or become less able to handle their own antibiotics after eating the chicken from this chicken farm.  Society is deemed to have been harmed, as well as the chickens.  So “volunteer hour” value of the company’s product would be decreased.
  • However, they treat their employees well, giving them healthcare insurance that is partly paid by the employee (a normal practice in many places now).  There would be points given to the company for doing that. 
  • And they might also be good about promoting employees to better jobs.  More plus points.
  • The company then decides they need a little more value in their dollars.  To do that, they decide to change the way they handle their chickens by buying a little extra acreage so they can let the chickens run cage-free.  More points are added to the company’s value, which eventually helps balance out what it would have cost the company to buy more acreage.

Some of the value could even be put in the stock market/Wall Street, as a balance to the regular money value there. (I don’t know how that might work, since I don’t understand too much about the stock market.  We’d have to call on experts in the stock market to figure that out.)

Value of Money in our Current System

A window into retail has shown me:

That money really only has the value we collectively decide it has.  Sports collector’s cards can be worth thousands of dollars–if everyone agrees that they are and are willing to pay the price.  An officially delegated group might set up standards that raised or lowered the value of sports cards based on how nice they looked, how beat-up they might be or how scarce.  Because a certain price was agreed upon, that is what they would be considered to be worth.

The final price also takes into account various expenses and builds them into the total.  (Otherwise, the seller will not be staying in business.)

We can give value to anything we want, in reality. In this system, instead of gold being the thing that would set the standard of value, an hour of a volunteer’s time would become the standard unit upon which a co-money system would be built.

Bottom line:  I guess how much an hour of a person’s time is worth depends on how valuable we think people are, doesn’t it?

My value system says that people are the most important treasure on earth.  (And God Himself says that people are His treasure.)

Every person can contribute value, whether or not there is any gold to back it up, just by what he or she chooses to use his or her time to do, or his or her decisions.  That could be as simple as a word of encouragement–something that might keep someone from committing suicide, for instance.

Without people here on earth to appreciate it, gold is only one more pretty metal in the ground.

At the ends of our lives, a pile of gold is not going to mean that much to us, other than that some who know us might want us to die sooner so they can have it!

(Based on how much importance many women give to getting or sending cards for birthdays, I think there are probably other women who might consider another person’s time and input or attention to be a valid standard too.)

If the government was to set this up (so as to make the currency official), possibly in the U.S. Treasury alongside the money system, computers could record and compute the value of our volunteer hours and use it to increase or decrease the value of things we already have, or just use it as “money in the bank” for withdrawing later in the form of goods or services.

Even the government could benefit

In a recent paper, there was an article that said that due to a budget shortfall, the city would be cutting back on park maintenance.  There’s also an article that the city across the river would be laying off an employee at the library in their round of budget cuts.

Voila!  Some of the county’s budget shortfall could be made up for through the volunteer system.  (Part of the government’s 20% of the volunteer force for tax value would be organized to provide services to the government–local, state or national).

The volunteer club could ask for volunteers to, say, run those big cute funny lawn mowers all over the park for a certain number of hours each, or spend time helping out in the library a certain number of hours per week, in exchange for getting credits under the volunteer system.

And points would be deducted for stealing one of those big, cute, funny lawn mowers!

The Value of Using Both Negatives and Positives

Pavlov’s dog experiment showed that the most effective training comes from a balance of negative and positive reinforcements

The volunteer currency system would do something similar to that for our money system.

For instance, our current animal control system might typically punish everyone who did not pick up their doggie’s doo-doos in the form of a fine, and an alternate/balancing system might reward a few who DID pick up their doggie’s doo-doos by putting their picture in the paper and awarding them $50 each.

Part of the volunteer task force could include secret volunteers (sort of like mystery shoppers) who went around finding people who did things right in our country–people who gave their customers extra good service, who gave an elderly neighbor a hand getting ice off her sidewalk without asking, or whatever.

An increase in value for “volunteer hours” currency could come about because you were honest, or gave service with a smile to your customers, or visited your elderly mother on a regular basis in the nursing home, or maybe because you took care of her in your own home instead of putting her in a nursing home prematurely, if she couldn’t be in her own home anymore.

A decrease might occur if it was discovered you treated your mother badly while you were taking care of her.

This would also provide social balance to the current monetary system, which typically rewards higher skills or selling better products with more amounts of money only, and doesn’t also take into account any social values connected with what we do.

Let me make this clear–we could still do these very same “volunteer” things (and I hope we would sometimes) without having to have them computed as volunteer hours.  The things that are done without asking to get credit for them might actually be more valuable–because they’d be seen as being more genuine, perhaps.

Incorporating such values into the system would give greatly enhanced value in the long run, as some of these values would attract more business (service with a smile brings more of my business, I can tell you), which would ultimately bring more money to businesses and create more jobs.

I would recommend, for anyone getting credit through the volunteer club, that certain standards be adopted before anyone was given their full “volunteer hour” status under the club’s system. (It might partly depend on the abilities of the person rendering the services, however.)

While volunteering or working, there would be points given simply for doing a good (and not a sloppy) job (depending on one’s capabilities), for coming at the time they promised, for the intangibles that add up to real worth for the recipients in each case.

How Senior Citizens Might Be Affected

Senior citizens might be among the best recruits for club membership.  In the latter part of life, many seniors find their greatest purpose in volunteer work. And some of them have so much time on their hands that they drive their partners crazy.  It would give a lot of seniors something to live for, and might help pay some bills, too.

Being part of the volunteer club might also help them pay for (say) medicines. (One of my cousins was telling me she recently paid $1200 in one month just for medicine, up from $800 the month before! Drug companies are now allowed to not only let prices go way out of control, but they have been given the legal right to control the markets for certain drugs for certain amounts of time before generic drugs can be prescribed or even given to the poor.)

At the same time more resources are needed in order to care for their health, seniors are gradually becoming unable to perform regular tasks.
But under this kind of a system, they could also do other things that would otherwise cost them money if they had to hire it done.

Seniors might often do things for each other instead, depending on what abilities they possessed, and get volunteer points for doing so, too. That would offset some of the expenses the rest of us might have to pay to provide these services for our loved ones.  It might be possible to save our country a considerable amount, overall.

The volunteer club system might help to organize it.  Seniors could call in, asking for someone to take them grocery shopping with them when they go, and other seniors could call in to volunteer to take 2 or 3 other people with them, on a particular day, at a particular time.

I noticed my elderly mother and her friends often did favors for each other that reduced the burdens others would otherwise be taking on.  The ones who could still drive well often picked others up when they went grocery shopping or when they had doctor’s appointments or went to meetings.

I could see even bed-ridden but clear-thinking seniors being able to, say, call other seniors periodically on the phone to ensure they were okay, eliminating a need for at least one kind of alarm system that one of my aunts had trouble using, anyway.

With my aunt’s alarm system, she had to punch a button on an alarm box every time she left the house or came back.

Unfortunately, she often forgot to punch the button due to a “senior moment”.  There were a number of times that specially dispatched emergency personnel tried to break through her windows, or that we’d get a call at our house asking us to check on her, only to find out she had just forgotten to push the alarm button.  (We were the first place they called when she didn’t respond to their system.  If we weren’t home, the emergency personnel sent emergency personnel to her house.)

Health Care Solution

A clinic in a big city near us had a great idea.  (Well, they implemented their idea after I’d had mine, but they are a great example of what I mean.)

Basically, they made an offer to their surrounding community, for the benefit of those who needed free health care:

Volunteer to work at least a certain number of hours at officially designated places in the community, and we will give you “free” or partially free health care, based on the number of hours you work for them in a certain period of time.

It is a very popular service, The Oregonian said.

I thought of a side benefit to that kind of health care: only the ones who truly try to make a contribution to our country in some way (and who were not only here for what they could get out of it) would thereby benefit from the health care system here.

For seniors, perhaps some of the benefits could be based on some of what they’d contributed to the value of society in the past too.  They might be less able to volunteer now and would need more help financially than some of the rest of us.

This system would eliminate those who only wanted to take advantage of a clinic’s services without any interest in becoming citizens. OR it would cause more people to become involved (and as they say, time is money), OR it would contribute value to our society in other ways that would make healthcare more affordable, if it was interactive with other things.

Maybe there would be nurses and CNAs who might choose to volunteer a certain number of hours instead of getting paid for their scheduled working hours for (say) a nursing home, in order to get some of the perks/benefits of the volunteer club.  That might save the nursing home enough money in wages and taxes they didn’t have to pay that they could offer free nursing home care to more people. (Or something along those lines.)

Creating Jobs

One of the efforts of value coordinated through the Volunteer Club System could be starting small businesses through a team effort.

Companies today sometimes have their employees do brainstorming, make prototypes, research patents, and such.  The “Club” could do likewise, through groups of volunteers.

One potential problem I thought of would be where the funding might come from.

Funding is one of the first things someone who wants to start a small business needs to have in place.

I’ve heard that millions of dollars worth of grants go unused every year.  And each year grants are not given out in one category or another, they decrease to the amount that were actually given out, in the next year.

What if all money that was set aside for grants that was not used by the end of the year were automatically put into a fund that would apply to starting up small businesses through the volunteer club?

The club could coordinate the process of both starting businesses or coming up with new products.

  • New business teams could possibly use vacant space in churches or charity buildings, which might then give perks or points for those organizations.
  • There could be “idea teams” who get together to do brainstorming
  • People possessing good doses of knowledge about certain things or common sense would be recruited as volunteers to help sort out what ideas would work and the best ways of implementing them through testing.
  • Volunteers could be recruited for researching the viability of businesses for the ideas that were come up with.
  • People could be recruited to help make prototypes.
  • People with marketing skills could be recruited to help market the products, once they were produced and the business was started.
  • Dependable volunteers could then be recruited to work in shifts for manning the businesses after they got started.
  • Any money these businesses made, past expenses, would go toward funding club services and accumulating perks.
  • Fledgling businesses would be headed up by the Club through at least two full-year cycles (possibly 5, as most businesses fail within 5 years).
    These businesses would at least need to go through enough business cycles to get a feel for whether they would be profitable, for what else might need to be done to improve the company, and to find out if they could financially sustain the number of employees they would need to adequately take care of business throughout the year.
  • Then there could be official launchings, and the best-qualified of the interested volunteers could be given the chance to fill the positions in the new business on a full-time or part-time basis.  At that point, the businesses would run on their own steam and regular wages would be paid to anyone who worked there.

It’s obvious that we need more jobs in this country.  And a lot of the people who are laid off from jobs are older workers who thereafter have much greater difficulty finding another job than younger workers do, in most places (not Florida, though, I hear).  Unfortunately, this comes at a time when they often desperately need to be putting money away for retirement, and that money is needed so they won’t have to feel they are a burden on society, either.

This system would allow seniors opportunities for work that they might not otherwise be able to get, and free up some jobs in other places (like in Florida) for younger workers who must compete with seniors who seem to flood the workforces there.

Though this part of the program would not, and should not, take the place of people starting their own businesses, it might give some people some very practical, well-rounded experience in all aspects of starting their own businesses down the road.  I’ve wondered sometimes if so many small businesses fail simply because their owners are unskilled in managing one aspect of the business or another.

This initial training might be a significant boost to many, becoming a way to help many come up with more stable businesses of their own further down the road without actually having to go back to school to learn how.  (And going back to school typically requires a lot of financial aid, too.  That’s more money that the government could save, and stretch out the value of other financial aid funds too.)

Volunteer “Temp” Work

If someone lost his or her job, he or she could immediately get connected with the volunteer club and start earning some benefits right away.  This could be doing something they might have had an interest in but didn’t have enough experience to get a regular job doing it. Volunteering through the club (just like temping does now) might also be a great way to learn or demonstrate skills and get noticed by companies that wanted to hire people.

Volunteer System Taxes

“Income” that volunteers earned through the “Club” could be tax-free (or feel like it, at least). Perhaps one-fifth of the volunteer work force coordinated by the club could be directed to do things that would help the government or do things the government currently farms out to independent contractors.
Maybe money that would have been paid out to independent contractors but was done by volunteers instead could be put directly into the club’s coffers and divided among the volunteers according to their volunteer-hour value.

One-fifth of all volunteer force hours, used to provide for government needs, might be considered “payment of taxes” for the whole group.

I know this from observing the situation of a friend of mine:  The current system of requiring the poor to pay taxes on any bartering they do is a severe hardship for some.  I know, because I tried to do taxes one year for my friend Rosana when the only income she had would have been considered “self-employment” (doing odd jobs for people or something).

Even people who make less than $1000 per year are required to pay self-employment taxes, according to what I understand the tax booklets to say.

If you don’t have any money, and the only “income” you got was in the form of barter (meals, a place to stay, or whatever), how are the poor supposed to pay their taxes without trying to borrow money they may not ever be able to afford to pay back once they got it?  Though this is not true for all of them, their only friends might be homeless people or others without any money themselves.

I think we need a better way of helping our poor.  Just giving them money or health care services without requiring anything in return doesn’t help them in the long run.  We all need to be contributing members of society, according to our own abilities.

Our President is a Single Parent

For as long as America has been a country, it has been headed by one person.

In our country, that person is and was always a man, and he just about always has a lawfully-married woman (his own) standing by his side.

Wifey’s job is to look pretty, to look like the perfect White House hostess and to (sometimes) put up with whatever her husband decides to do on the side.

It’s a big job, no doubt about it. So many things to do, both inside the country and outside of it!

As a single woman who spent a long time looking for a potential spouse (at least during the earlier part of my adulthood), I have another point of view.

One thing has become quite clear to me about most guys who show an interest in me: most of them, if left to themselves, pay very little attention to certain things they consider relatively unimportant, such as housework.

Let me just say that this is certainly not true of all of them–guys who do care about these things seem to do them to perfection, and definitely put me to shame in this area.

It’s just my observation that if they marry, most guys are looking for someone else to do certain home-related chores so they can focus on other things.

I can just about guarantee you, if there’s any thought in a guy’s mind that I might be a possible partner in his life, he will eventually test me to see what my reactions to doing housework might be.

It’s a good test–but one I am invariably impatient with.

Why?  Because I’m somewhat like them myself, I hate to admit it!

When I am thinking or have other things to do, housework is just about the last thing I do.  I wouldn’t mind having a good “wife” too, in that respect!

But if I don’t do it, it generally doesn’t get done.  And sometimes it doesn’t!

Well, on with the story…

Characteristics of the house of a person who devalues housework can include:

  • Junk on the floor one foot deep
  • Doing the dishes is put off for days on end
  • Pop cans and cat hairs are strewn across the floor, and they stay there until someone else picks them up or sweeps them out–even if it takes years before someone does!
  • Furniture is left in the same place forever and ever–they don’t see it, so why would they be tired of it?
  • A nanny is usually hired, or a friend helps out, if he has children–it’s too much for a single father to do all alone
  • Design and color are nowhere to be found, and his home environment is typically colorless and drab.  Such things are just not important!

It’s a lot to do, taking care of the “kids” of the country and the big world out there, too.  And that’s what a President has to do, all by himself!

I suggest that two hundred years of having men as Single Presidents of the United States has probably left some major House-related things undone:

  • Clutter in the Cabinets
  • Help for the “kids of the country” is farmed out to others (charities, grants, etc.) because it’s too much work to organize it within the main branch of government!
  • The House has not been cleaned from top to bottom in a long, long time!
  • Wading through six feet of (now accumulated) garbage makes everything so much harder to do!  Someone needs to reduce all that paperwork, or someone will drown!
  • Might need someone to help with the finances, if the man is not good with math
  • Doesn’t have time to give the kids adequate attention, especially if dad has been tied up with things like war

If some things were moved around in government once in a while (the “furniture”, if you  will), it might be a breath of fresh air to everyone! It’s no wonder the role of the Vice President is seen as being undefined. No offense to men (and this is sincere), but some of them just don’t see the need to do certain things that would otherwise drive a woman crazy. Whether some things get done or not is just not important to them!

And that might be why God made women. We see different things as being important, and we fill in the gaps in life that can cause problems down the road if they are not attended to.  Sometimes what we do just helps to create a more comfortable existence for the man of the house when he comes home!

While a comfortable existence is unnecessary in the short term, the world of work can sometimes do such a number on men that they need that kind of a place to come home to, and it might be important for long-term sanity!

Dad has a very important job to do.  (This is absolutely true.)

He finds a way to provide for the family and helps steer the family “ship”, and much of the time that’s no small matter!

A father’s influence is more important than many people may know.  It is a fact that his interaction with the “kids” is essential for their emotional health, and results of the lack of any of that interaction is particularly acute after a child becomes an adult.

Did you know that almost no criminals have a good relationship with their father?  (That’s something Chuck Colson’s ministry discovered, when working with prisoners.)

And I know for a fact that the kind of interaction a girl has with her father very often determines the kind of man she marries, or whether she has difficulty relating to men.

The way dad interacts with the kids of America might be affected, too.  He needs to have some good interaction with them for the health of the nation, and not just be focused on his work in the world.

Mom typically brings forth life, life that was originally created between the two of them. She then spends half of her life nurturing it, doing a multitude of things that makes their “nest” a pleasant and enriching place for both the kids and for dad to be.

She cooks nutritious food so the family has the best possible health and and helps direct the kids into healthy activities, both for the present and to create good habits that will carry them well through life, running them around to such things as sports events, music lessons, and doctor appointments. (For the kids of the Country, that might mean learning to appreciate the Arts, Proper Exercise, Nutrition, FDA, Healthcare…)

Society sees the mother as being most responsible for those things, too.

If the kids are sick, most of the time it’s assumed that mom will be the one to take time off work to care for them. If the house looks dirty, the mother is judged to be at fault, not the dad. Statistics have shown that even if both mom and dad both work outside the home, women still do most of the housework. It’s just not seen as being a man’s job to do it!

For a long time, government has been seen as being “men’s work”.

Women are a part of it too, now, but the basic structure remains the same.

Aggressive tactics like filibusters are still allowed (such a waste of time and of taxpayers’ money!), abuse of each other in election campaigns is still seen as being normal; bribery is normal (”boys will be boys!”), and “it’s just politics” is seen as a justifiable reason for treating someone else badly.

Maybe some furniture needs to be moved around so we have another perspective.

Mrs. President

What the President needs is a wife (or a husband, if the Mr. President is a woman). We need a Mrs. President (and not just the one who is the President’s legally-married-to spouse)!

Our President is nearly always already married in real life. That’s not what I mean.

I’m talking about the government needing a shakeup in the structure of government, dividing the existing function of President into two parts:

  • the part relating with the world outside the U.S., and the part managing the kids of the country
  • And each of those two parts would need a “President” of sorts: Both Mr. President (with his or her spouse, if they had one) and Mrs. President (with her or his spouse).

If Santa Claus can have a “wife”, so can Mr. President!

Mr. President would, just like a regular dad, manage the direction our country would take in the world. (That might include dealing with the money system worldwide and such and trade.)  He would have the “final authority”. If there was a problem in the country that mom could not solve, there would be interaction and delegation and consensus on what needed to be done. Mom and dad would work together to make things work!

“Mom” would be responsible for bringing about new life (jobs and any other things that needed to be brought into being), also getting rid of things that have long since lost their value (cleaning house), nurturing of any new life and people who need help and coordinate many of the functions of the country itself. She would manage the functions now loosely managed by such groups as charities and religion and welfare and healthcare activities, keeping a view to saving the country money whenever possible (including eliminating duplication, especially where it creates conflicts and waste of money).

I saw duplication happen once between two well-known charities in my own town.  (I worked for one of them, that’s how I observed this phenomenon.)  Only the charity who got to the disaster first got to have its name put in the paper, and the one that got its name in the paper typically got more of the funding.

I think there’s a need now to help America start to think “right-brain” so as to best take advantage of the kinds of things that would benefit America most and jobs that would pay best.

Manufacturing and technology will have diminishing returns for America. Projects and programs could be developed to help with redirection.

An alternative currency system could be developed that benefitted women and met women’s needs and responsibilities best (as a balance to the current system), using volunteer hours as the base standard of value instead of gold. (See my idea of a volunteer currency system under the “Let’s Fix the Economy” tab.)

“Mom” could even help her kids find romance and provide for them to get guidance if needed…

Other countries have systems in place to help match up potential mates. The family is an important basic unit upon which rests much of the country’s stability (history shows that).  I think we need to provide some way for singles to come together that does not necessarily cost them a lot of money.

It would still be a singles’ choice which way they did it, of course.  But a nationally-sponsored system might be especially good for those who can’t afford the extra monthly expense of an online dating site membership or who might prefer to date in a more casual or nonthreatening way.

My experience as a single has shown me that sometimes there’s so much focus on ourselves as singles in the dating process that things might go wrong sometimes just because of that.

You know what kind of guy I’d be most impressed with, if I was “looking”?  Someone who showed evidence of caring enough that he’d voluntarily do something for someone else, and not just himself, or even me.

And I think if we worked together for a common cause but also submitted our psychological/personality profiles at the beginning, singles could be sent out on volunteer projects with other potentially compatible singles, both men and women.  I know when I was in college and some of the students went out on summer mission trips, there almost always seemed to be a few couples that got together over the summer through the trips.

Doesn’t it also seem like those who work together for a common cause also feel more bonding with those they work with?

I could see something easily coming together for them through the “volunteer club” idea I have (see the “Let’s Fix the Economy” tab), with a little bit of tweaking.

There’d be plenty for an officially-elected Mrs. President to do, whether Mr. President now sees the need for a governmental “wife” or not.  Just find a way to give him one, and I can almost guarantee that thereafter, he wouldn’t know how to manage without her!

Housing Solutions

I think there may be other ways to deal with the housing crisis that could be more beneficial, at least to the poor, than is our current system.

The main difficulties might come because of lack of knowledge or the unwillingness of some, such as zoning committees and communities, to allow other types of housing in certain areas, and the perception that the best houses are always the ones made of bricks or wood.

Granted, there are some good things about the housing we typically build in America.  Techniques have been perfected for just about every aspect of construction, building houses can generate a lot of money for people who build, buy and sell them, and many of them are very attractive.

Quality of such houses can vary greatly, though, even if they are up-to-code.

I saw what appeared to be some rather shoddy construction in what was supposed to be an up-scale condominium I lived in for part of the time I was in Boston.  Cheap toilets had been put in (there were frequent problems with them), and one of the walls in my room started separating, starting to crack open.

I’m sure the landlady paid a lot of money for the condominium–it looked beautiful.  But it seemed to me that whoever constructed it must have used the cheapest materials to get the maximum profit out of the job.

I’ve noticed that if Americans volunteer to make houses for people in other countries, the kind of housing they build is the kind we usually have here in America.

Is that because the people there want houses like ours, because we think our housing is superior to theirs, or because that’s the only kind we know how to build?

Alternative Housing

I have done quite a bit of reading on alternative types of housing through places like Mother Earth News and books it recommended.

Some of this kind of housing is common in other places and often much less expensive to build than our houses, and many are quite sturdy, too.

Some, such as those made from mixtures of clay and other things (like cement), are fireproof too and relatively maintenance free.

There is more than one kind of house that can be built from clay and water and (sometimes) other kinds of substances.

One of these types of houses was built in England.  Many are still standing today and are just now starting to need major repair, many years later.

They typically last much longer than wooden houses last for us in America before needing repair–they about 400 years, I think the book said, and they naturally provide better insulation against the cold than wooden houses do.

Wiring can be plastered right into the walls so if there is a short in the wires, any fire it might create doesn’t even reach the inside of the house.  You’d have to use a pickax or jackhammer to get through the walls and then just make some more of the clay mixture and plaster it up again when the problems inside the walls were fixed.

These walls are also very insulating against either hot or cold weather when the right thickness of walls is used and when the windows are positioned in the house in the right place in relation to the sun.

Since a form of dirt (clay) is used in the making of the walls, any fire that starts there doesn’t go very far. (Dirt is one thing you can throw on a fire that will help put it out, as you may know.)

When building a house made with a clay mixture, interesting furniture (including beds, bar stools, tables, shelves and couches) can be built right into the walls of the house on the inside, formed out of the same clay mixture as the walls.  Recycled items (doors, pop can tops, or whatever) can also be plastered right into the design of the walls in interesting ways.

I read that certain shapes of houses (such as those with domed-shaped tops) are often more easily passed over by tornados as well (especially if they are made out of a clay mixture, I assume, as that might more closely resemble the dirt in and shape of hills in the countryside).

Arched-shaped doorways hold up far longer than doors with square angles (rectangle shapes like we use) in storms… The ancient Romans were among those who used arched doorways, and some of those arches are still standing.  (The buildings the doorways were in collapsed, but the doorways kept on standing!)

What if we were to use some of the fireproof kinds of houses for rebuilding in places like California, where fires rage out of control every year?  Fewer houses would have to be rebuilt in succeeding years, and it might even be safer to “stay put” during that time of year, as the houses are supposed to be better insulated against heat or cold.  (I couldn’t tell you that for sure, not having lived in one.)

…OR maybe we could create the relatively maintenance-free ones for older folks who have trouble maintaining their houses and roofs without more expense than they can afford to pay out of their limited incomes?  Since furniture can be built right into the walls, everything could be made to the right proportions of the person who lived there.  Instead of trailer parks, they could have a whole bunch of houses in a circle, perhaps joined to a main building in the center. The main building could sponsor senior activities, meal preparation and serving (especially efficient if the residences shared a window with the main building in the center of the circle), and an office, if they wished–similar to a trailer park but a little more cozy.

This might be convenient and inexpensive housing for shut-ins or for people who wanted to live in an assisted living community more inexpensively.

I admit, some of the houses in the pictures I’ve seen look really primitive. I’d bet, though, if enough time and skill was invested in erecting them, they could look pretty nice.

If only one person or family had to do all the work themselves, “primitive” might be a common result. However, some alternative houses are also sculptable (those with clay) and could become an enviable work of art if someone with artistic skills was allowed to help out with the design or plan the structure.

Perhaps we just need to decide on and require certain standards for each kind of house, keeping in mind its good points and bad points, and try to accommodate current trends and needs for beauty and function.

And perhaps there could even be contests for creating the most beautiful and/or functional alternative-style houses, such as the funniest, the most efficient, or whatever.  Small prizes could be awarded and the plans used by the winners could be featured in or sold through magazines or newspapers.

If volunteers could work together to help make alternative (but still sane-looking) kinds of houses for the poor, I know it might be harder to sell existing houses on the market. However, people who can’t afford to buy that kind of house really shouldn’t be buying them anyway.

A lot less money might be needed for loans for these alternative types of housing, and the poor might more easily qualify for them without overall harm to the nation’s economy.  The state of the debt in this country is important, too!

Encouraging the poor to buy homes they cannot afford is not the answer.

Part of our problem in this country is the over-extension of our credit and our debts, individual and national, is it not?

It does seem to me that the poor aren’t really considered citizens, on some level, until they have a    residence of some kind.  In other words, not homeless.

Consider what we require of people looking for jobs:  if a job applicant sends out resumes, he or she needs to include an address and phone number to which employers can respond.

The homeless have even more difficulty becoming contributing citizens if there isn’t a viable way for them to having housing of some kind.  Even rent is out of the financial reach of the poor in some places, even if they have full-time–but low-paying–jobs.

We might need to help them get what they need in a way that also helps our country.

I think there might be other ways to deal with a housing crisis as well, and there are others with a lot more expertise in this area than I have.

And see what happens when government tries to force the market to provide for the needs of our country in the wrong way…

Who Truly Represents Me?

Does a representative who faithfully reads or listens to everything we say to him or her about how we want them to vote truly represent us, even if he knows nothing about the subject I discuss?

I bring this up for a reason.  When reading a book about Bill Clinton once, I noticed his campaign strategy was to do whatever he had to do or say to get into office, regardless of whether it was true, because he and Hillary figured if they didn’t get into office, it didn’t matter what they believed, they would be unable to help anyone anyway!)

So I say, “No, not necessarily.”

And simply because there are differences between men and women, when, say, women are relating concerns to representatives who are men, sometimes that might mean there will be misunderstandings (acted on or not) that can be hard to clear up.

Over my lifetime, I’ve written plenty of letters to both men and women, and I can tell you that almost always, men tend to understand what I have written differently than what I intend for them to understand, in some way.

People can have strong opinions and even the best of intentions of bringing justice to a situation, but I contend that if they have never experienced more than one aspect of whatever-it-is they are trying to bring a solution to (and sometimes even being the opposite gender from me can skew results even if they have also experienced it), they have missing parts in their experience and knowledge bank and cannot fully and adequately represent people who need a solution.

Let’s bring this home.

I’d say there’s an element of misunderstanding that might be true of Hillary Clinton’s Health Care Plan. (No offense, Hillary.)

(And isn’t this the plan Mr. Obama plans to impose on us too?  This may not be just a woman’s perspective or a man’s perspective.)

I have a friend in Massachusetts (yes, she is a law-abiding citizen) who told me this health plan is already in use in her state.  She is one of the poorest of the poor in terms of possessions or wages, but as one of my dearest friends, I’d say she is a gem among rocks.

She is not poor because she does nothing.  She is not trying to bilk the system or society.

If she needs health care, I’ve observed she doesn’t typically go to the doctor even then.  She grew up poor and was not used to getting health care in Brazil, from what I could tell.

She got something in her eye once that caused her a problem for a long, long time.  She never even thought of going to the doctor for help.  Some people just don’t go to the doctor, it seems.

I tried to help her with her taxes after that health care plan became law in Massachusetts, so I know what the plan requires there.

The question is, when every person in Massachusetts is legally required to have health insurance (even the poor) so that it is then a crime if you don’t have health care…and it’s a miracle if you even have enough for food or have a place to stay that is inside a building, then it’s a severe hardship to come up with money for health insurance.

…Health insurance which, by the way, is not cheap.  At least, I don’t know about any health insurance that doesn’t cost someone, somewhere, quite a bit.

The tax forms in Massachusetts require you to list on them the health insurance you had in force for you in the past year, or else prove that you legitimately could not afford it.

It seems to me that there was something on the form that said you had to prove it in court, if you didn’t have any.

Why should it be considered a crime if you are so poor that you can’t afford health insurance?

I’m sure from a wealthy person’s point of view, it is a good plan–that way it “takes care of everybody”.

Since the poor are “less valuable” citizens, it doesn’t matter what kind of problems or humiliation such a plan might cause them.

Based on a comment I heard once, I wonder if there is an underlying assumption that all poor people are “using the system” and taking money from the wealthy that rightfully belongs to them?

I have seen enough of the wealthier side of society to know that they have a lot of expenses, too.  I have no problem with people making a lot of money, especially if it generates jobs or benefits people or society-healthy causes besides themselves in some way, too.

From my perspective, though, I have to say that some of the hardest-working people I know are also among the poorest. Though never learning how to use money well is sometimes a part of the problem, they are often fairly unskilled and just not able to get jobs that pay very well. The jobs they do get often consist of work no one else will do unless they are really, really desperate.

Maybe the wealthy are able to be wealthy simply because others are willing to do the work for them behind the scenes, for much less than they get.

Without the poor or the middle class, the ones at the top may not be able to have all they have.

I somehow see this situation as needing to be give-and-take on both sides, not just one.  It needs to work for both the wealthy and the poor.

While some of the poor do “use the system”, I don’t necessarily think that means all, or nearly all, of the poor are using the system.

Nor do I think that being poor means that somehow God is punishing someone for doing things wrong. (And I do think there is evidence in recent years that some wealthy people have learned to “use the system”, too, in ways that affect all of us.  How is that not robbery, as well?)

Wealth is not necessarily a sign of spiritual health, in my way of thinking, though some preachers would have you think so.  Neither is poverty.

It might just be that you got divorced, and splitting things up between the two of you just meant everyone involved got much less than before.

It might be that your spouse had a disease that required hundreds of thousands of dollars of medical help, and insurance didn’t pay everything, or paid nothing, simply because whatever-it-was was a pre-existing condition.

There have been times I simply couldn’t get work.  No work = no pay, at least on a human scale.

In our area, people are continually getting laid off from the good jobs in the area, and there simply isn’t much work available.

And what if God asks us to do something other than work at a “regular job”?

He does do that sometimes. My financially poor friend in Massachusetts has a God-given gift for ministering to others.  It’s part of her life for Him to point someone out and say “Go here” or “Go there”.  And the ones she helps aren’t always able to pay her anything.  He often provides in other ways that have nothing to do with money.

The poor just might not have enough hours in the day or enough opportunity to earn all the money it would take to pay for their own health care!

In reality, it only makes the poorer that much poorer for them to have to come up with a way to pay for their own insurance on top of everything else.  And they may have a very healthy and necessary pride in needing to do all they can themselves, for themselves.  Just turning them over to the government to pay for that insurance doesn’t really solve the problem, in the end.  Someone else has to pay for it!

Even if Massachusetts supposedly subsidizes healthcare insurance if someone truly cannot afford it–just filling out the tax forms can make you feel like you are a criminal, just because if you don’t have the money to pay for it, you have to prove it in court.

And it appears that the state, then, is the one who has the right to say if someone makes enough to pay for health insurance or not.

The government seems to be getting just a little too invasive, even if they are supposedly “helping” thereby.

The situation of the poor becomes that much more desperate when they have to also pay for their own health care, and they end up having to get help in other ways or neglect to do the legal thing, simply because they have no other choice if they are to survive.  (I’ve seen it happen in other areas.)

I think it may actually create more abuse of the system in the long run (though through no fault of the honest poor, perhaps).  Those who happen to be more careless about following the law may do more to take advantage of it.

The state would not come out ahead, I think, with this plan in place.  They would never be close enough to the problem to ever know that, though, because I daresay not one of the representatives would ever choose to live for a year or two under the kinds of conditions that would tell them exactly what I am saying.

Such a plan backfires in the long run, because the ones making the laws simply don’t understand the consequences if they have never been where the recipients have been or are.  And it can make things worse for the people in leadership in other ways.

Has Hillary ever been so poor that she had to find a way to make that kind of plan work for her and also afford a place to live and enough money to eat? I doubt it!  (Or maybe she has never felt guilt about taking things from the government when she was poor.)

Maybe she was a poor college student at some time in her past.  I know that can be a desperate situation indeed, without help.  (Those of us who have ever been college students without a lot of financial help can attest to that).

But I bet she had at least some training in how to manage money or other means of coping that helped her pull out of it once college was past.

The poor who have always been poor are caught in a cycle they can often never fully escape.  For one thing, it often requires a lifestyle change or retraining in one way or another to fit into a system they did not grow up in.

I think the solution needs to run a little deeper than requiring every person to show evidence that he or she has health insurance of some kind!

And I can also tell you that sometimes the health insurance offered doesn’t do anything of value for the person who has it.

I know that from experience.

Up until now, I have had far more problems with my teeth, muscles, and back than with the rest of my body (one leg is shorter than another, which causes other problems).  My health care needs are generally better taken care of through chiropractors and alternative kinds of health care than through doctors, in my experience.

When I took a job at a local school in order to get health insurance, the only insurance they would pay for, at the number of hours I worked per day, was insurance that required me to pay more in co-pay up front than the services themselves would cost me in the first place.

It was cheaper just to pay for the services myself than it would have cost to submit them to the insurance company so it would pay for them! But then, the insurance company would have paid nothing anyway, because the co-pay was so high.

Come on!  If insurance was the only reason I had the job, I would have been better off without it.

…And because the number of hours I worked was slightly less than the number I needed for full-time coverage, I was not allowed to have dental insurance there, the thing I was really hoping to get in the first place, even if I paid the paltry amount it would have cost them by myself ($2 or $10 or something like that per month).

Something is wrong with this system.  I personally think Hillary’s system would be a financial disaster for the country, if only because the system would find ways to bilk the public in taxes even more.  That would not even consider how it would affect the poor.

Making Assumptions

I’ll see something that is wrong and say, “I have to help those guys!  Someone’s got to do something!”

And then God often gives me an experience that shows me what it’s like for someone on an opposing side.  Almost always, I then realize I spoke or acted too soon.

There are things the other side needs and knows that are important to consider, also.  Things are not always as they seem; it’s not always “greener on the other side of the fence”, just because someone has more money or fame.

Relating this to choosing a representative: I find that I trust most the ones who have had a wide variety of experiences, both pro and con, concerning whatever thing we need a solution for. …Representatives who not only have a lot of book-learning, helpful as that might be, but have also personally gone through a few related things as well. After all, the person writing the books they learned from might not have complete experience or knowledge, either!

There are many things an experienced gardener has learned over time and takes for granted that a new gardener might not even think of. While new gardeners might have great ideas, the experienced gardeners would no doubt be able to see immediately which gardening ideas would probably work and which would not, if they had well-rounded experience.

If I have diabetes, I probably know all the symptoms and medicines and foods I need to eat and all kinds of associated problems that someone else might not.

If there’s going to be legislation providing solutions for diabetics, I would prefer having a representative who has diabetes (or who knows someone who has diabetes well, at least, or a doctor or alternative health practitioner who has successfully worked with diabetics). They’d not only have the necessary knowledge, they’d have the passion to do all they could do to bring about the right kind of help for diabetics everywhere, if they were given the task of representing the rest of the diabetics in the country.

I wonder sometimes if our current representatives actually have adequate experience on all levels.  Though they list what they’ve done and what they’d do for us in our local voter’s pamphlet, my perspective is that anyone can say anything, but that doesn’t necessarily make it true.

Lying is no longer considered a vice by many in our country, and maybe nobody is even checking to see if the blurbs the candidates write is accurate.

I could envision setting up an entirely different system of representation.

When I went to a National Grants seminar recently, I was told about the way government does things to help us when they don’t know the answers for what ails us.

For many things, the government has set up a lot of “loose solutions” to American problems that are difficult for the average person to appropriate.

In the first place, most of us simply don’t know about them. (I’m talking about grants from the government and things like that.)

I think things very well could be dealt with more efficiently in other ways and save the government a lot of money in the process.  (See my post re: fixing the economy.)

For the sake of good communication with the representatives, I think instead of electing them by states according to population, it might work even better to have one man and one woman representative for every special interest group in America.

No lobbying would be allowed at all! If there was another special interest group that needed representation (and if it was for a purpose that was not harmful to our country, like terrorism), they would simply get together as a group and elect someone who would be their best representative for conveying and bringing about what they needed to have happen.  (Perhaps there would be a basic level of screening to make sure that the groups being represented are on-the-level.)

That information would be transmitted to the appropriate committee at the top, and the new representative would be contacted when anything that had to do with that particular special interest came up.  When it did, he or she would be assigned to a team to work out a solution with the other special interest groups that had an interest in that particular matter.

Every representative would have to have a computer (provided by the government if needed) and any necessary software for doing the job, in order to do things this way.

This would save a lot just in travel expenses and any time representatives might lose from work.  Maybe they could even represent us this way and work a full-time job, too!

I’d be all for saving our country money in every way possible, so that every extra dollar could go toward paying off our national debt.  America never even used to require anyone to pay taxes.

Why can’t we find a way to do that again?

Think how much less (say) a family would have to earn to support itself if it didn’t have to pay any taxes!

Maybe even a single could afford to live alone or buy their own house on a smaller salary.

If a special issue came up that needed to be worked out, all the representatives of those groups would be told to arrange a time for doing a teleconference together, and they would keep working on ideas and solutions until they came up with what looked like a win-win situation for everyone. Their decisions could be considered official and receive the necessary funding if it was required, though of course any decision could also be contested if it turned out not to be the right choice for any of the groups. The process could then be done again or new representatives appointed, if that was needed.

Nowadays, we can simply telecommute or have teleconferences from wherever we are, along with other jobs we might do. There would be no need for the government to pay any representative big bucks to be working on solutions and bills that may not even pertain to the people they represented.

We don’t want extra pork in our bills anyway. I think bills should not even be allowed to have “pork” in them. One unencumbered bill at a time!

(How did that ever come to be? We could probably save the country lots of money by changing that situation alone!)

Choosing Leaders

Perhaps the best representative, in my opinion, would be one that not only has a broad range of experience in as many areas as possible but is, percentage-wise, closest to the median of as many special interest groups/trends in the country as possible.

If America is 30% “green”, the candidate should have at least some “green” tendencies, but maybe not go too much overboard.

If 95% of America sees nothing wrong with telling little white lies, then we most definitely should have a representative who also tells little white lies, and he should not be condemned by anyone, anywhere, for doing so, not even by the media, who might also consider it okay to tell little white lies.

If we want a representative, we might need someone who thinks and acts like us in some way, for him to truly get a feel for what we need.

If 50% of America is single, there should be as good a chance for the Governor to be single as married (whatever tradition says about what unnecessary qualifications the Governor or President must have).

If 80% of America is obese, he or she should definitely be, too.

And so on, and so on.

I just think that the person who most closely conforms to America’s “curve” might best understand the needs of America.  Of course, it should be understood that he or she would not be a good candidate without other necessary qualifications for the job, like decisiveness or common sense. Of course.

Payment for Leaders

I see people in leadership most often making decisions based on what works best for them, even if they are in charge of something that’s for the benefit of others.

…You know, like what kind of payscale they should have.  If they are themselves in charge of what they get paid, they might allow themselves as much salary as they wanted to.  And maybe they do.  America has unlimited funds to pay them anyway, right?

What other job in America offers a perk like that, unless you are a business owner with a gift for making lots of money?

And even then, there are expenses business owners have to pay, like wages and taxes, which take more from the bottom line than most employees tend to understand.

Perhaps a different payscale would be appropriate for our representatives.

Not saying they aren’t important people and worthy of all we can give them. But if the representatives we chose were given a salary that was the average of all the salaries of the group they represented, and it was only raised if they managed to help increase the standard of living for their own group, the representatives would (like salespeople do) have even more incentive to do their best for the group they represented in that area.

And they’d have to do it without putting pork in their bills.

(I realize there’s a certain expectation that representatives should be able to get all they can for the particular people they represent. And that’s not always a good thing, either… Does someone else have a better solution?)

Human Resources/Juror System for Picking Leaders

I’ve wondered if a “juror” system (or else something similar to a Human Resources Department in a company) would work for the first stage in picking some kinds of leaders.

I also wonder why certain people run for positions where there is obviously so much abuse in the system. (Maybe that’s also why some candidates run unopposed.)

Do they just want to have the say or power over others? Or do they truly want to make a difference?

And once they are in office, what will they really do for us? The election process itself seems to be an easily-manipulated system, if only because some have no standards of ethics and feel it’s perfectly okay to sign up dead people and convicts to vote in our elections.  Or manage to find a way that any particular person can vote seven times.  Or eleven times.

Or they think that marketing themselves well in the election is the only thing that matters–and whether we actually get the right person for the job does not.

If businesses were run that way, there would be a lot fewer of them in existence today, let me tell you.

Yes, we job-seekers are trained to get past the human resources person’s defenses so we can get a job.  But if someone who hires people does not also know how to pick a good person from the available pool, later on they can find themselves embroiled in lawsuits or find they’ve hired an embezzler, or something worse.

Suppose political leaders could be selected this way:

  • a group of possible candidates would be recommended by citizens who knew them (or know of them), recommended for one quality or another they possessed that was on the list of qualifications for that position
  • then the process was narrowed down by a specially-selected group trained in hiring people for jobs
  • thorough research would be done on their backgrounds to determine that they do, in fact, do what they say or what others say about them)
  • the remaining candidates would then be put to the vote of the public.

I think we thereby might come closer to having representatives with the right motives.

If someone is truly a good candidate, probably someone, somewhere, will recommend them for office.

The way it is now, it seems to me certain politicians are allowed to manipulate the campaign system to get elected and then do whatever they please!  How is that fair?

What do you think?

Why can’t we have an annulment system for politicians who don’t even give good evidence of trying to keep the promises they gave in their campaigns or who turn out to be someone they didn’t convey to us during the election?

I realize such a process would need to be fair.

I understand that the way government is set up today, only the representatives who have been elected the longest have much say in doing things for those they represent.

When it is obvious that someone is not right for the job, and both parties agreed on that, perhaps “annulment” could even be done without too much fuss and cost to the taxpayer if we could figure out a way to do it without too much red tape.

Maybe even have something in place to help “freshly-annulled” candidates find jobs more in keeping with their talents.

That would be better for everyone.  Some of us are simply not suited for some jobs. (I know about some of those.)

All of us need to be doing the things we are gifted at doing. We enjoy doing our jobs more, we do a better job, and people enjoy us being in those jobs more.

People with a gift for campaigning or marketing might be much more suited to marketing jobs than to leading a country. (My opinion only.)

Just because you look good and sound as if you have the voice of n angel, it doesn’t necessarily mean you are the best candidate for the job.

As a recent e-mail I got reminded me, Fidel Castro also promised redistribution of wealth, and the thing the country finally became equalized in was hunger and poverty.

Something I know a little more about: While I was living in the Boston area, I was doing telemarketing as part of my job.  While calling pastors to set up presentations for missionaries, I discovered a pastor who sounded more godly than any pastor I’d ever heard. A very spiritually gifted man, too.

Then one Sunday I ended up accompanying (on the piano) a singer who was doing special music for his church. After that Sunday, I decided to attend there. Everything was perfect! I even got to be part of the music team and the prayer team.

A lot of things happened while I was there, but a year or two later, through a big hullabaloo over something that did not need to be major, a family in the church and I discovered he was not what he looked like he was, and I left the church. (The family left first.)

Several years later, I got wind of the fact that he’d left his wife and six kids and married some woman in the congregation.

He’s still a pastor, as far as I know, but he speaks so well that people keep on believing him, somehow.

The person who sounds the best can in fact be the worst. A silver tongue can be covering something that’s not-so-nice.

I would rather know someone’s faults up front and know that, whether I like him or her or not, I can at least live with the results of their actions.

I would rather sit under a pastor that had a sterling character and made all kinds of mistakes in the delivery of his message than one that sounded good and wasn’t.  (Let me clarify–I’m not saying I think that someone with a sterling character can’t also sound good.)

Besides, I’m coming to see the people of any congregation as being as important as the pastor, in deciding whether a church is a good church.  And I am one of them, if I go there. What I do and say, or what other church members do and say, counts for something, too.

We Need “Jobs” Refocus

Fundamental shifts have taken place across the globe in many areas, particularly in the last hundred years.

In the last ten or twenty years, we’ve sent businesses overseas and other countries (such as India and China) have both learned to do what we did and are now the major players in manufacturing and technology.

Why is it, then, that many things we do are still being done in the same old way? Until those shifts are recognized and addressed, there will continue to be problems.

When I talk about doing things the “same old way”, I’m not talking about using websites, phones, planes and such. I’m talking about perceptions of what works best for making a living. I’m talking about things like trends and needs in society that government may not yet recognize as important when considering how to increase such things as jobs creation, welfare, healthcare and what kind of work will allow people to make money in the future.

Right-brain activities are beginning to become more important in our society.  The book, “A Whole New Mind: Why Right-Brainers Will Rule The Future”, by Daniel H. Pink makes some interesting points about where we are headed in our country, and why. A number of the concepts he wrote of really hit home to me concerning America and the current election.  And some of the reasons why I’ve had trouble finding work in the last few years and maintaining an edge in my own field has become clear, shifting my thinking in another direction.

If what Mr. Pink says is true, trying to create jobs through technology and such may not help now. (It is confusing, I know, because there are still some jobs in these areas. It’s just that many are being farmed out to other places, and other countries are coming up with their own now.)

If there is not a market for what we produce, we cannot expect jobs in these fields to last. High business expenses and high taxes here sent many of our companies overseas.

I think Mr. Pink’s concepts might give some clues about what direction America might need to go now. He considers it important to embrace such things as design, story, empathy and symphony, even if only to introduce these things into the business or expertise we already have.

(If you have not read the book, you might find it enlightening. Do yourself a favor and read it, if only to find out where you should be focusing your energies in looking for work these days.)

Leaders of the future, he says, will need to be able to synthesize concepts from very different fields and bring them together in meaningful ways that work well and make sense. We now not only require proper function in products we buy, we require it along with good design.

Leaders here, especially, will need to be able to do things that computers cannot.

Why?

Other countries are already doing what computers can do now, and we need to focus beyond them to other things, if most of us are to continue to do well or to come back well in the marketplace.

So…What can we do that requires more than what a computer can do?

Things that are already starting to pay more in our country, such as: Care for people’s physical needs (nurses, doctors and such); entertainment/sports; things that tell a story; jobs that bring things together for people in meaningful ways (consulting, counseling and such), and other things. (It’s not fair to Mr. Pink to tell you more–and he can say it better than I can.)

The next President may need to help our country refocus so that as jobs are lost in areas that now are starting to be taken over by other countries, we can start to transition into things America needs to do and be in the future.

These are difficult times for many in the area of employment. I just heard of two people today who’ve lost their jobs and are fighting depression because of it. An accident rendered one of them (age 60) forever unable to do the only kind of work he ever did and knew how to do for many years, at an age at which it’s usually harder to find new work anywhere in this country.

I think Mr. Pink is right–we need training and experience in thinking and doing right-brain types of activities that can lead our country to solid jobs in the future that pay well enough to adequately sustain us.

Read his book, and you’ll see what I mean.

Money Cycles Too!

Our money system is standardized world-wide.  When we do things with our money that are less than sublime, others involved in our rhythm of give-and-take can and will suffer too, we are learning.

On the home front, if one partner buys a fancy new car and the family can’t afford it, the whole family might have to live on macaroni and cheese for a while if they are going to have a good financial balance.

Maybe in the balance of life, our money system also needs something to balance it?

I’m going to compare our current money system to being a “single father”. 

Money spawns all these different things just by the ways we use it, and it takes care of the kids as a result, but there are some things that are missing without a “wife’s” interaction with it.

Money, being “man-made” (originally started by men, I’m guessing, since they were the ones who probably created it and handled it to start with), it tends to favor men’s priorities and things they are especially good at, in life.

That’s good.

Men traditionally “brought home the bacon” (especially if they raised livestock!). The system depended on men making most of the money in order to support their families, especially since earlier in our country’s history, most women had very large families and didn’t also work outside the home.

Hence, favor was given to men in wages (and often still is) and was programmed to appreciate in line with what were traditionally seen as being men’s attributes, things that are necessary for jobs, such as: the higher your skill level, the more you are paid.

Then women entered the job market. In order to compete in that market, we had to play by the men’s rules. That’s the way it’s set up.

World-wide, there’s this underlying value system that says a woman is fundamentally worth less than a man–am I understanding this correctly? Or is this just how it feels?

(There could be something I am not understanding just because I’m still single and don’t usually have the input of money-smart men around me.)

But you know it’s true. If some countries need to reduce their population, it’s the girl babies who are thrown away or killed. If a girl baby is born, there is dismay, while high congratulations are given to couples when a boy baby is born.

May I suggest that our money system reflects the belief that women, and anything women do, is worth less than a man or what a man does.

Until we fully value women and incorporate what is seen as a typical woman’s values into the financial system, I think it’s possible our money system may continue to cycle wildly out of control at times, if all it has is its “single parent” rhythm that tries to cover all the needs in society with one method.

Everything in life needs a balance. Money is no exception.

The Volunteer Club Currency System

What if we could give our money system a “wife”? One that incorporated female attributes into its reward system so that we had a currency with built-in rewards that favored a woman’s typical functions in society?

Just like in marriage, such a system could provide balance during times of normal monetary stress. When the regular money system ebbed in value, the “female” currency could flow.

And I believe, from hearing people talk about the Great Depression, that elements of my idea were present in the way Great Depression survivors were able to manage. This would just organize things ahead of time so everyone could benefit, through a prepared networking system.

See my “Volunteer Club Currency” page for an idea of a way to balance our money system to help the economy.

Life Cycles

Every part of life, and everything that is influenced by life, has its own rhythm.

Understanding that lets us work with it to the best advantage.

As people, by nature we may have particular times of the day when we function best and when we might be better off just taking a nap.

Each person’s rhythm is different.

 So are the rhythms of animals. So are the comings and goings of customers in a store. (It’s amazing how often customers tend to come into a store in a group and leave in a group. How do we humans know to do that?  There must be a kind of social rhythm too!)

So does money.

Because money comes and goes based on what people do with it, it is most valuable if, once you put the money in an investment, you leave it there, for better or worse.  What goes down will come up, as long as the companies you are investing in are sound.

Companies cycle too, based on what kind of business they are and how they are handled.

It’s fear itself that can be our own worst enemy, and banks and the stock market can reap the results of it.

If everyone panics at the same time and takes out all their money, the institutions we take them from have nowhere to go, nothing to hold them up.

We have “killed” them, all by ourselves, just by reacting out of fear!

Balance

If nature has been programmed to have rhythm, it has also been programmed to have balance.

Gory as it seems to me, certain animals are programmed to eat certain other animals, which keeps each population down so that no one species overpopulates any given area or starves or forces out any other group.

We can fool around with nature, accidentally or on-purpose introducing species from other places into our own country, and can totally mess up the balance of nature.

God seems to have given almost every kind of animal both a male and female (not all), and arranged for interaction between us to be a necessary part of life. We balance each other out.

Men and women, while all human beings, are fundamentally different in drive, perspective and purpose. Our responses to things, if misunderstood, can wreak havoc in a relationship between us.

If understood, however, and arranged in such a way that the best features of each are relied upon by the other and the worst features of each person are covered by the other, together man and a woman can be a much stronger force than either would be by himself or herself.

To me, that is part of what I see as the value of marriage. It’s part of a balance of nature that we human beings need in society as well as in marriage, and in money as well as in society.

About “Gay”

Though by using the word “gay” I am really just describing the type of relationship I think government parties and representatives have with themselves and their relative perspectives, I thought I probably shouldn’t use the word “gay” as a comparison without sharing my own perspectives on the subject. It’s an emotion-packed subject, and not knowing how I think about it could change how you see what I am saying.

…If that makes sense.

I should say up front that though it’s becoming less popular to be so nowadays, I’m a Bible-believing Christian.  However, that doesn’t necessarily mean I’m going where you think I’m going with this.

When I was in Boston, I had a friend who was gay [a friend of a friend, and he became a (platonic) friend of mine too]. I saw his reaction to me when we were first introduced. It didn’t take much to see that there was something about “Christians” that he was afraid of.

It seems to me there’s often this assumption that all Christians hate gays, or (if we’re a Christian) that we should.

(While I do not choose that lifestyle for reasons of my own, a person is a person, after all. Why should we treat them as if they were not?)

…And because, as I see it, when Jesus physically walked on the earth, I don’t think He did either. Look how he treated the woman caught in adultery (a sin punishable by death in His day).  (Strange how the ones who brought her to Jesus didn’t bring along the guy she committed adultery with as well. Adultery is a two-person affair!)

And He said, among other things, “Judge not, that you be not judged,” and “I did not come into the world to condemn the world, I came to save it.”

My gay friend is a very sweet and sensitive guy. He came once a week to spend time with my landlady’s adopted son, and afterwards we would usually have a conversation. I liked him. He’s a very nice, very thoughtful person.

When my landlady/employer (not Christian) introduced me to him, she told him in the same breath that I was a Christian.

I swear, he backed away from me about a foot. It was not hard to see that to him, there was something less than ideal associated with “Christian”.

I believe God cares as much about people who make different choices than I do as He does me. Whatever I believe, who am I to expect those who don’t believe as I do to do things my way?

After all, Jesus said, “Whosoever will (wants to) may come.” Not “everyone must be forced to do it my way.”

It’s a choice. We all have to make choices. And let’s face it, we all have God-given needs built into us that practically require us to do something to get them met. We just employ different ways of getting them met based on a number of factors that are important to us.

It appears to me that (just like most heterosexuals do), when looking for a partner, gays basically subconsciously look for someone to help them work on whatever issues they have left over from their past, someone who can complement their weaknesses and strengths.

On my side of things, I believe a true Christian gets any ability to do things differently because he or she has chosen to ask God to live with and inside of them, and He gives them a new heart and a new mind. How would anything God requires of a Christian apply to someone who has not chosen to be one?

Let me be clear. I do believe God asks me, as a follower of Him, not to have that lifestyle myself. From Scripture, the reason seems to be that “those who do so reap the results in their own bodies.”  Whatever tendencies I may have, I’m just not interested in those results for myself.

And I know all about “reaping the results in my own body” in another way–I love ice cream. Every time I eat it, I notice my body registers the results in pounds and indigestion and other nasty things. I prefer not to have any more results in my own body of that kind.  (Easier said than done!)

I guess most of us do things the way we do because we perceive that they work for us, or maybe just because they’ve become a comfortable way for us to relate, or do them, or emotionally bear things .

For me, believing as I do gives me certain benefits in the spiritual arena if I do things God’s way. And I want those benefits.

I’m explaining, because I just want you to know what I’ll miss out on if I decide to do things contrary to how God says I’m to do them.

One of the benefits of knowing God personally is that I can communicate with Him whenever I want (whether I say anything out loud or not), and know that He will hear and take care of me. I know that both through Scriptures and by experience.

God’s care of me may not happen in the way that I expect.  He might ask me to do some things too (they might come in the form of responsibilities, or something). It may also take a lot longer than I expect or prefer.

(Have to tell you, though. Though some say “God always does things on time”, that doesn’t always mean that “on time” is according to any human timetable! They’re right about it being “in time” for whatever thing God is doing, but what God does may seem to take way too long for the thing I think is supposed to happen!!!)

It certainly doesn’t mean I don’t or won’t suffer sometimes along the way. (Some people, like Job in the Bible, suffer a great deal in their lives. Suffering seems to be a part of everyone’s life in some way if they live long enough.)

I’ve been around long enough to see God do what He does in amazing ways, at times. Sometimes He does things that benefit me in ways others can’t see or do anything about, too.

(Truthfully, I’d just as soon others didn’t know about some of the benefits sometimes. I can get away with more. However…)

Just as a President is supposed to be “perfect” (is there any such thing?), somehow there’s this perception that if you are a Christian, you are supposed to be perfect, or something.   

(Well, maybe we’re supposed to be perfect in attitude, as Jesus says He requires that of us.  But I really don’t think that means we’re going to automatically do everything right simply because we believe in Jesus.  I John says if we say we have no sin, we are liars, and the truth is not in us.)

Being a Christian doesn’t mean I am flawless. It does mean if He points something out to me, I need to ask for forgiveness and correct the direction I’m going. 

It means that (however wrathful I may have learned He is) I do have a good God.

It means I have Someone on my side Who has a good plan in mind for me and has promised to go through the hard things with me,  “working all things together for good to those who love God and are called according to His purpose” (Romans 8:28).

At times it might feel like everything has gone wrong in my life, and that nothing can ever be straightened out again. But somehow even out of bad things, God can and does bring good things for those who believe in Him, including me. Most of the time, though, I’m “in process”, and it’s often not obvious what He’s done until I’m on the other side of it.

Prayer

Our local paper had an article about a study done by some group to find out if “prayer” works.

My question is, if they don’t believe there is a God, how could it even work?  The last I knew, “prayer” has to connect with someone powerful enough to do something about what we’re asking.

Prayer is the natural communication between me and the One who made me. We’re asking Someone who can actually do something to Do Something, usually for us or for someone else or about a situation.

Prayer is an outgrowth of my relationship with God, and it also requires me to follow the terms of His covenant with those of us who’ve chosen to go His way.

To get results from my prayers, I find I need to keep my relationship with Him in good shape. That requires that I do what He says.

I have at times chosen to do things on my own terms. And though God forgives and keeps giving me chances when I don’t deserve them, I’ve also reaped the consequences, at times, when I have chosen to go against what He has asked me to do.

One of the consequences of not doing what God asks me to do is that I am not consistently able to pray and get answers to my prayers. I need to do what He says to have His benefits.

For me to abstain from a gay lifestyle does not mean I’m trying to make a statement or say anything about anyone else thereby.  I just want to do what it takes to keep my relationship current with my Heavenly Father.

The way I see it, God made me. That means He knows how I was made to function. When I ignore the standards He set up for humankind, things go wrong, and once they do, they can take a long time to resolve in a healthy way.

Getting to know Him means I get really used to having these (sometimes unexplainable) benefits that I’ll lose if I decide to ignore what He says!

If your lifestyle is different than mine, and I choose to keep it that way, rest assured it may not have anything to do with what I think of you.

Nature

Because most people refer to what I call God’s program for the earth as “nature”, I’m going to call it nature from here on out.

I learned when studying alternative health care subjects that the closer a food is to the way it came to us in nature, the better our bodies can use the nutrients in it for maintaining proper health.

The more processed or altered a food is when we eat it, the more likely we are, at some point in our lives, to suffer health problems in one way or another if we eat it, even if nutrients are added back in.

Enriching a food after taking nutrients out of it can actually cause certain vitamins to be even more out of balance in our bodies (such as the B vitamins, when they are added back in to denatured cereals) than before.

Our bodies were made to move in order to renew themselves physically and to keep them flexible and healthy.  (Wouldn’t it be nice if cars worked that way?)

The more we follow nature’s laws in moving our bodies the right amount, in the right way, the more we can generally expect to be renewed and energized physically and mentally. The more consistently we exercise in the right way, the more chance we have of living healthfully for a long time.

I think this also applies to the way our spirits and souls function, too. We do best on all levels as human beings when we try to live closest to the healthy patterns of life. Patterns like treating others with dignity, respecting the boundaries of marriage, giving children the right kinds of attention at the right times, respecting others’ rights to own property, and so on. Certain aspects of our beings can get mangled just in the press of life, otherwise.

And I figure the outward choices we see some people make might just be a result of being “mangled” in one’s soul in early life, in some way. We have to get our needs met somehow, and if things aren’t fixed the right way, we might feel a need for other kinds of solutions.

Or something like that.

A Single’s Perspective

I decided to share some things I have learned during my years as a single that might relate to this. For better or for worse, I might have a different perspective in this area than others who believe similar to the way I do, because of it.

Part of the reason I am sharing this is because I have noticed that I had some things in common with the gay guy I knew, such as the fact that both of us went into deep depression after our fathers died. I don’t know about him, but my depression over my father’s death lasted a long, long time.

And I noticed that as soon as my gay friend’s dad died, he decided he didn’t want to come visit the little boy anymore.  (Abandonment.)

I wondered if his own dad do that to him in some way?  I’ve read that throughout the generations, we tend to continue to do the kinds of things that were done to us, unless the cycle is stopped in some way.

It kind of makes me wonder if, at the heart of things, my friend and I might have a common reason for our “relationship status”. (If that makes sense.) Maybe there was a common reason for our choices or lack thereof?  I don’t know.  (Abandonment? “Daddy” stuff?)

Fathers, I have heard and read, can make a significant difference in the outcome of a child’s life, just by how he treats his little ones and his involvement with them. Does he interact with them? Does he put them down consistently and tell them they are no good? Does he beat them, or abandon them, or fail to keep promises to them?

Or does he stick by them, talk to them, build them up and encourage them, and teach them to do what he does, taking them with him where he goes at times and demonstrating with his life what a good authority figure looks like–strong, patient, understanding and caring?  (I may have forgotten some. Good dads are good for a lot of things.)

All those things (or the lack thereof) can affect the life of a child dramatically, especially after he or she grows up.

Criminals, Chuck Colson’s ministry discovered, almost all love their mothers and want to send Mother’s Day cards to them.  Almost none wanted to send a card to their dads.  (Well, that could just mean that they don’t see it as manly to send cards to their fathers, I don’t know.)

Maybe I don’t see all the reasons for that.  I do know many women get very upset if their special days are not remembered in some way.  (Not all–I’m one of the world’s worst at remembering special days. Just ask my friend Karen!)

To me, this just says marriage between a man and a woman is still the ideal plan. God intended for both a daddy’s influence, support, and time and a mom’s love and nurturing to be the normal foundation for emotional well-being in the life of every child.

Men and women have two completely different perspectives and roles in life, even if they learn to blend their styles, and both are desperately needed in the molding of a healthy child in his developing years.

In My Own Life…

As a single, I have long had my own set of problems when it comes to finding a partner with whom I can share my life.

For a long time, I struggled with why I was so inept in this area. It’s not that I don’t do a lot of reading on the subject, because I do!

(Well, it’s been painfully obvious all along that I don’t live up to the beauty standards most men require now. But besides that…)

As someone who’s been single a long time, though, I probably have a few perspectives that are a little different from most of what is expressed in mainstream Christianity. 

I’m just in a different place, let’s face it.

I have done a lot of reading about the differences between men and women, and reasons why relationships work or don’t work. For a long time, I also tried just about everything (aside from doing things outside of the standards of Scripture) to make something work.

It never did.

And now, even though God gave me a special promise that He would bring to me the one He had for me, and that I would be married, it’s no longer a priority to find anyone (just for the record).

God gave me a calling that I believe is more important, for one thing, and I find I am often happier in my single state than some of my married friends are. I feel quite grateful I never married, to be frank. (I probably would have chosen a partner who would not have worked out, given my propensities for finding relationships that don’t work!)

After His promise to me, God did do a lot of work in my life, bringing people into my life who helped me learn more about people and relationships. However, the more I studied about the subject of marriage and family, the more it appeared to me that I really am not the kind of person who would be the best at making a man happy.

One thing I discovered was that I needed “daddy work”. And, having tried counseling a few times, counseling didn’t ever seem to be the kind of thing that could make up for the place that never seemed to form in me.

I had, I think, a great dad in many ways. Personality-wise I identified with him, too. He was quiet and sensitive (”genteel”, some called him), the kind of guy I’ve always kind of looked for in a husband myself.

Maybe seeing his good qualities was part of the reason it was so hard to figure out why I had so many difficulties in this area–I basically saw him as a good guy.

The only thing is, I only remember one time when he ever talked with me directly. He would even be in our house a great deal sometimes (he couldn’t do too much farming in wintertime), but he’d almost always be doing his own thing when he was. He’d talk to the boys in the family, and he’d talk to my sisters when they gave him trouble, but I only remember him talking to me once, directly.

I tried to do everything right and stay out of his way, basically.  Apparently I figured that was what was expected of me.

That expectation was confirmed once when he asked one of my sisters why she couldn’t be more like me. “Quiet” and “stay out of my way” was good, to him.

My siblings and I were not allowed to date until we got out of high school. That meant that we had “zero” guidance on the subject of dating from our parents, growing up (other than giving me a Christian book on dating). The only siblings in my family who have married were first “parented” by someone else as well, after they left home, maybe for a similar reason?

Part of the problem may have been that dad didn’t believe he and mom should show affection in front of us kids. I don’t know about my siblings, but I didn’t learn what healthy affection was supposed to look like, at home.

I confess, for a long time I never knew anything about what made relationships with the opposite sex work, and I have made such a terrible mess of almost every relationship I’ve ever had with a guy!

I don’t think my dad ever meant anything by his lack of attention to us girls. To him, that was just what being a good Christian father was–he followed what some considered to be Christian standards at the time. He was shy, too, and probably didn’t know how to interact with girls, even his own. That’s what his own dad did, no doubt.

At one point I learned I had experienced what is called “abandonment” in my childhood, and then I did some reading on the subject.

One book I read said that the only kind of woman a man should avoid marrying is the woman who has had an “absent” father (emotionally and/or physically) growing up, or a father who did not participate in some way in a healthy father/daughter relationship with her. That woman, the book said, would make his life hell.

Well, that was me. I have been looking for my “father” all my life. It’s a blank space inside that feels as if it cannot legitimately become what it needs to be in the right way, unless God does it, now. There are no handles to hold on to inside in certain places–they just never formed, I think. I don’t know how else to explain it.

I’m not particularly looking for anyone to fix that anymore, but now there are other reasons I don’t consider marrying, at the moment.

Temperamentally, if a man were to marry me, he would have to live with a “Joan of Arc”-type personality that needs to “save the world”/needs a mission to be happy. (That’s difficult for most families to handle, I hear).  (My dad was kind of like that, too, but mostly he just had a lot of ideas and interests he wanted to pursue. It’s hard to do that when you have six kids.)

My spouse would have to put up with someone with something like a professor/Einstein-type way of thinking that can completely lose touch with anything and anyone for days on end at times, because everything I experience on those days tends to be focused on whatever subject I am thinking about. (Einstein, I read, also had trouble with relationships because he was not always “all there”.)

Which is to Say…

What I’m trying to say is I figure most of us probably have a hole in the fabric of our lives in some way because of things that did not happen for us that needed to. (Baggage.)  I have theories about why people might do one thing or another, but there are too many possible reasons, such as inadequate relationships with fathers or mothers, or bad experiences with friends or others, to make any judgments.

(It’s unwise to make assumptions. Almost every time I think I have something nailed down, I find another way there can be an exception!)

Not all that long ago, I know many fathers didn’t see it as being important to interact with their children. That was their wife’s job, and their job was done if they provided an income for the family.

Among younger people, there’s often more flexibility in family roles now.  I really appreciate seeing that, when I do.

Part of my thinking, both about gays and about heterosexuals, is that we all seem to subconsciously look for partners who might help complement us in our areas of weakness or fill the needs left in us from things that happened in our lives. If we were missing something in our upbringing, we tend to look for someone who can help us work through our “stuff” that still needs to be worked through.

If, for instance, we were missing a daddy’s love, we might be looking for someone who looks like he could fill that spot or maybe has some of the characteristics of the parent we still have issues with.

How is that something we should judge each other for?

Just My Perspective…

As His created ones, God knows how He made us to function best.  If we operate these well-equipped “human machines” He made contrary to how He made them to function, some things will probably go wrong. (…And others will either benefit or suffer from whatever we do around them as a result, since we are made to function in relationship). 

A good many of us might not know the right way to maintain our created functions without help of some kind.

Though much has changed, that was certainly true of me.

Suppose there is a manufacturing company that makes toasters. Their conveyer belts move fast-as-a-bullet, so that employees must work quickly to do their jobs right.

Suppose also that an employee at this company sneezed as a toaster came through. Maybe as a result of the sneeze, he neglected to put in a crucial part–say, one spring on the left side of the toaster, such that the toast wouldn’t come up correctly on that side.

A piece that is missing or put in wrong can cause things to function in a way that is not normal for that appliance. The poor toaster with a missing spring might be flinging toast into the cabinets or not ejecting toast at all, without help and “healing”/fixing.

I have learned a lot about myself in the last ten or twenty years.  I have come up with theories about possible reasons for things I see in others by observing my own reactions to situations that come up, sometimes.

In one situation, it seemed like I was being offered an opportunity to have a “relationship” with another woman. It surprised me that my first reaction was a sense of relief.

I knew that there was a missing part of my own life for which there seemed to be no remedy. I also usually get along really well with most women, and I do tend to have a gift for saying and doing all the wrong things around guys who might have an interest in me and in whom I also would have an interest…

If I had chosen to take part in this relationship, it would have probably been because an enduring relationship with her actually seemed possible, as opposed to everything else I had tried that never worked out with a man.  (Unless he was someone I was not interested in–then it often didn’t seem to be a problem relating to them at all.)

After a little bit of probing, it seemed to me like something similar might have also existed for this woman I just mentioned. In her profession, she rarely met any eligible single men, and it looked to me like she desperately wanted children of her own. She needed to be a mother, and it was painful to see that she couldn’t be one, simply because there were few eligible single men she could meet.

I can’t speak for anyone else, but for at least some of us, maybe the reason some of us do things others don’t think are right (like having a lesbian relationship) is that there just needs to be better ways of finding eligible mates in our country, and some of us end up compromising so we can at least have someone.

This was ten or fifteen years ago, perhaps before online dating sites really started to take off. I know there are lots of online dating sites now, but not everyone benefits from them, I think, especially if they don’t have a computer or don’t have a lot of extra money lying around.

I know there are some free ones too… I don’t even bother with them, myself, because it seems like every guy’s preference is for a model-type woman, which I am not.  And I believe with the promise God gave me, I’m to be looking for a certain kind of person.  I haven’t met him yet.

But this discourse should answer just about any question you’d ever ask me about how I relate to the word “gay” or to people I know who are…or about how I feel about being single. 

I at least hope it helped you understand my concept of why government is “gay”.

 

Our Political System is Gay!

 

Can anybody tell me why America seems to crave having a woman or a black man in the White House at this particular time?  During this election, all of a sudden, we have two white women and one black man in the running in the two major political parties.

 

 

We Need a Civilizing Influence Now

 

Consider our Presidential Campaigns. Somehow, the standard now allows candidates to attack each other in order to win.  (That is often considered a typical male characteristic–though I have to say, when women do fight, they can be pretty nasty too!)

 

 

Too Much Money Wasted

 

In my way of thinking, it’s practically sinful allowing anyone to be able to use so much money, however they got it, simply on campaigning.  Currently, its main use seems to be for the purpose of slandering the competition in order to get what one wants: to be President.

 

 

Campaign Process

 

A campaign process could incorporate right-brain techniques and current trends even beyond technology for winning the Presidency in ways that I think might be so fun, absolutely nobody would miss watching the competitions on TV! …Sort of the difference between laundry soap ads on TV thirty years ago and the kind of ads you see today.

 

 

Advertisers really have to work at being able to capture the attention of viewers, now that those who have satellite dishes and DVRs can speed through taped programs and ads anytime they want to.  As a result, ads can be so fun to watch now, they can be better than the programs we originally intended to see.  (Some of those Geico ads might be among them.)

Why can’t Presidential elections be as much fun to watch as some of the ads nowadays?  During election season, we’re forced to watch and hear the same complaining, abusive stuff over and over and over, and that does very little to show us who we should be voting for anyway, much of the time.  Surely we can do better than that!

See my “Different Kind of Campaign” page.  It’s about an idea for a different kind of campaign that I think might be fun, fun, fun for the whole family to do and to watch, and might not even cost candidates a cent!  (Maybe anyone in America who was truly qualified could become President someday!

 

Whether or not a candidate gets donations in such small amounts that it doesn’t “count”, or whether a candidate takes anything from the government coffers to run his or her campaign or not should not matter!

I think that money could be used for better things and still be able to demonstrate the things in a campaign that voters need to know, showing us what kinds of things they would do for the country if they were elected and what kind of person they are.

It’s deceitful to do anything else, I think.

Do we allow sports competitors to take drugs so they can outshine their competition?

Of course not.  It has to all be based on what a candidate is naturally able to do.

Allowing some candidates better access to money to further their campaigns over that of any other competitor does exactly the same thing, the way I see it.  If they do such manipulative things to get into office, they should be disqualified…unless they are equally willing to continue raising funds from outside sources during the entire time he or she was President in order to run the country, as a way of showing us what he would do as President.  All of it!!!!!

(We could sure use the money to pay off our national debt, plus the trillion or so dollars that our leaders voted to be applied to stabilizing our economy!)

One of the current candidates says he wants to tax the rich more to redistribute the wealth.

You say it doesn’t affect the poor when the rich get taxed in this country?

Sure it does, because where do the jobs come from?

They come, most of the time, from businesses that get busy and need help.

Some of the highest expenditures a company ever has is for wages and the taxes that go along with hiring people.

Raise taxes on the rich, and you may find yourself losing your job. Your boss may not have enough money to pay Peter (the IRS) and Paul (his employees).

Right now, even if a candidate tried to be nice, he would eventually have to provide rebuttal to the attacks or risk having the voters believe what the competitor said about him. (It seems we voters do believe that kind of thing, too, if there is no response to a competitor’s attacks.)

I see abuse as being a normal part of our Presidential Campaigns now. I really think we need a new format for them, if only to stop the abuse.

Why do we allow candidates to abuse each other? Because we need to know that they can handle the abuse of politics and politicians and leaders around the world? Abuse creates abuse, and sometimes war.

Why is it allowable for any of the news media to abuse or try to bring disfavor to candidates they don’t approve of? I thought journalists and such were supposed to be non-biased!  And neither church or charity leaders are even allowed to say anything to influence elections now, or they supposedly risk losing their tax-exempt status.  (If they are liberal church leaders who condemn America it doesn’t seem to matter, however.) 

Among America’s entities, are only journalists allowed freedom of speech in this country? 

I have another question. Why do we allow followers of politicians (those who try to get their candidate elected) to be abusive?  We don’t let (say) employees be abusive, if we want to maintain good working or business-to-customer relationships.  It’s even illegal to do so.

In fact, in a sports contest, we would disqualify someone for abusing one of his or her competitors.

Our laws don’t let advertisers slander or put down other advertisers.  Why are politicians allowed to get away with doing that to their competitors or other politicians?

All may be fair in love and war, but as far as I know, politics was not supposed to be included in either of those categories.

Shouldn’t there be some level of decency or dignity allowed for every person who appears in public, as well?  We have made heroes or villains of anyone who is famous, and it seems to be perfectly okay to trash them, put them on a pedestal, or hunt them down.

People are people.  Rich or famous or political people are people too.

While selling things on eBay, I corresponded briefly with someone from Holland and discovered that he’s been watching our elections on TV, too.  I think we would do immeasurably more for our candidates and for our country in the eyes of people around the world if we required our candidates and their followers to show respect for each other, in speeches, in debates, in interviews, even in speeches they might give in other countries.  If the other person becomes President, the speeches the first candidate gave may very well lower the opinion the whole world has about our country. 

We need a good reputation in the world in order to do trade and other business well and to help our own economy.

At least in theory, women who are real women are the civilizing part of society.  We soften things up, we focus on understanding and resolving issues and meeting needs; we reduce the abuse.

Just eliminating the abuse in campaigns might actually do more to show us who each candidate really is and what he or she would do for us, because none of them could then base the rest of their campaigns on how well they were able to put everyone else down. 

(And let’s face it, just because a competitor tells everyone in all their ads that the other guy is doing something wrong, it doesn’t necessarily mean they are telling the truth.)

It gives me a picture of any candidate who would do such things as being someone who is eager to make war.  I am personally quite sure that I don’t want that kind of person in office in these volatile times.

One of my philosophies is, “it takes one to know one.” If one candidate wants to bring up a point about the other candidate, maybe some (verified) neutral party should be appointed for the task of bringing it up and making investigations in depth for both candidates.  That neutral party or team could be the ones appointed to reveal the outcome to America.

Myself, I tend to not even think of some things unless I’ve experienced or practiced them myself somewhere along the line, or knew well someone who did.  One of my questions might be how candidates even know to bring certain things up about any other candidate?

Are we sure it’s entirely because of which group any of the candidates represent? I think it might be because we actually need some different things to happen in our country now!

Pure and simple, I think American government is gay, and maybe we just need some new perspectives in government–some new relationships–now.

What?

I am trying to describe the kind of relationships I see at play in government today.

Even though we have a Republican Party and a Democratic Party to balance things out, for the most part I see it as still being mostly two different groups of men fighting for the power between themselves; one group of men’s perspectives and ways of doing things versus another group of men’s perspectives and ways of doing things.

In a marriage-style relationship between a man and a woman, there is still the dynamic of vying for balance of power present, but there are different kinds of perspectives and ways of doing things than when the gender of both partners is the same.

Back when America was formed, only Caucasian males were considered important enough to help out with any part of the decision-making about what the government would be like.  (Or maybe part of it was that women had so many children back then that they simply didn’t have time to do anything else?)

Indians were not important in the process, except to a few (even though they helped the white man get established here); women were not important (they were considered criminals if they tried to find a way to give input); blacks could only be slaves, and so on.

Even as late as 1920, women who wanted to have a say in government were abused and treated like criminals, and it was considered appropriate (at least by President Woodrow Wilson) to do so.

Our forefathers may have meant exactly what they said when they said, “…all men are created equal.”  (…Unless you were from a different background than they were, that is.  Blacks certainly weren’t considered equal, even if they were men.) 

Men, not women. (Nor children, nor anyone else who was not considered to be equal.)

Just to let you know, I’m not making a judgment for or against men.  We need them!

It’s just been my observation that usually things work better, in nature (or, as a part of it, in human beings), if they follow a path similar to the way God made things to function.  (Parallel to the way nature is set up, if you will.)

If you eat food your body is not able to receive complete nutrition from, you can cause things to malfunction in your body after a while. Teeth can decay, bones can become brittle, livers can become diseased.

A book on nutrition told me that the closer foods are to their natural state when ripe, the better our bodies will function after we eat them.

The less processed foods are when we eat them, the better health we will usually have as a result.

(Non-nature example here): If you put the wrong kind of fuel in your car, your car might sputter and die somewhere you don’t want it to!  (It’s happened in one car I rode in!)

I think Daniel Pink is right. Right now America needs more of the kind of things we typically associate with women: right-brain activities. We are just “left-brained out” for awhile!

As I’ve mentioned before, women are typically associated with certain things:

  • the color pink
  • bringing forth/nurturing new life
  • creativity
  • intuition
  • religious activities
  • nurturing
  • cleaning up messes
  • putting flowers on the table
  • writing letters, sending out cards for birthdays, weddings, Christmas, “keeping in touch”
  • keeping house
  • coordinating all household events for the sake of efficiency in running the household
  • being the peacemaker or the counselor (though men sometimes do it too)
  • resolving quarrels
  • saving money
  • volunteer (unpaid) work, and being the one who puts together nutritious meals/mind-expanding activities that keep herself, the kids and her husband healthy and able to function at peak efficiency

Voila! Exactly what we need right now in America.  (Well, maybe not any more of the color pink, though  the wisdom of someone like Daniel Pink might be welcome.)

I think it may not necessarily be that we need a woman in the White House–just someone who is right-brained enough to understand some of the kinds of things that needed to happen from a woman’s point of view, in the way a woman might typically do them.

When human beings function the way they are made to function best, the left side of the brain functions right alongside the right side of the brain.  If either side of the brain functions alone, it faces serious challenges.

The best brain function is not the left side or the right side of the brain. It’s the whole brain that functions best, the kind of brain that is most capable of easily making shifts back and forth so that it can function at top capacity.

To my eye, our government has mostly left-brain function, having male characteristics, since it was created when only men were considered to be correct in the way things were done.

You say, we already have women in government positions.

Do we?  Women who do things in government the way a woman would do them?

How long has it been since our government has had a good cleaning from top to bottom?  (A typical woman’s function in society.)

Maybe we could bring about a better balance–one that might include a little bit different arrangement of government to accommodate the part that’s been missing for so long.

Men are typically seen as being the leaders, the logical ones, the ones who have the final authority and the overview.

Of course, men bring many other important things to the table as well. But they are typically the more aggressive half of our species, the ones who are most likely to choose go to war (and to cause it sometimes).  We do need someone to protect our country–otherwise anything we do inside of it is all for nothing.

I read an anthropology book once that said that if every part of a society caters to the men and nothing accommodates the women, it becomes like the society of a certain Brazilian tribe, one of the most violent and abusive societies on earth.  Women there don’t think their men even love them unless their husbands beat them, it’s so bad.  And the same problems are perpetuated in their society generation after generation, due solely to the fact that the men have all the say and the women have none.

Pro-Choice AND Pro-Life

Well…let’s just admit it.  I’m not pro-choice in the abortion sense of the word.  Let’s just say I’m pro-choice in a different way.

In my estimation, I’m pro-choice too because I have made a choice that results in not having children.  Quite possibly, mixed into the batter may be reasons that are similar to why some women choose to abort.

Just for the record, I am an older single woman with no children and little chance of having any of my own now.  For better or for worse, I too have made a choice not to have children.

The reason?

For me, besides believing that marriage is the proper context for having children, I’d want any children I had to have a good daddy as well, and not only a mom.  I know what can happen when kids don’t have a good daddy’s regular input into their lives.

After children grow up, seemingly insurmountable difficulties can result if their daddies gives them little, no, or negative input, even if they otherwise have a lot of good qualities.

With every choice in life, there are consequences.

Some of the consequences I could be looking forward to could also be some of yours someday, if you are pro-choice.

In my own life, I see the consequences of not marrying and having children as possibly ensuring that I will not have close family members around to take care of me when I am old.  I don’t particularly want to be a burden on society or distant family members.

But there’s a good chance I will be, as I have never learned to manage my money well enough to save a significant amount up for retirement.  And though I’m finding my way in a different way now, regular employment no longer seems to be an option after I interrupted my “career” by moving across the country to be available for my elderly mother.

When I was younger, I was among those who did not want to have to deal with children.

As precious as children can be, let’s just admit it:  little ones take a lot of work, and each one creates a lot of expense we wouldn’t otherwise have to pay for.

It’s possible this reason came into play, as well:  I might have to think of the well-being of others besides myself if I had children!

Besides, the best time to start a career is when you’re young.

I also treasure “quiet” and “stress-free” a little too much sometimes.  Unless there’s something wrong with children, having them might guarantee considerably less of both!

Observation tells me that for a parent, raising children might well be the hardest work on earth.  It’s not easy bringing kids up right so they have a good chance to compete well with others, make a healthy contribution in some way, and learn the values that will serve them well throughout life. It’s challenging to have to keep coming up with solutions for them and addressing the issues of growing up!

I think it’s possible that even those of us who choose to ”have a life” over the lives of the children we could have had may one day wish we had chosen to have some, or to keep and cherish them.

The rhythms of life seem to guarantee that if we live long enough, we women will have a chance at freedom and life once we have empty nests (providing businesses would be willing to give us jobs then, that is!). Most of us could have a chance for the freedom of a having career then, too, if we were willing to wait for it and maybe go to school later in life.  (We could have the best of both!)

Observing my own family members growing old and dying shows me that at the end of life, what matters most is our wonderful memories of family and the quality of our relationships, at a time when it’s probably too late to create many more.

Billions of dollars in the bank or great careers, once they are in the past, just can’t take the place of friends and loved ones and any difference we were or were not able to make in the lives of people around us.

By choosing to rid ourselves of our unborn, I think we may as a nation be choosing things we ultimately don’t want, leaving behind the things we might have cherished most.

By ridding the country’s current majority in this country (I’m speaking of Caucasians here) of the offspring that would rightfully belong to it, we may ultimately give our country over to those who typically choose to have more children than we do:  it’s the majority vote that counts in our country, you know.

From reading I’ve done, this could very well mean that, say, Hispanics or Arabs will be in the majority in our country by the time our children or grandchildren would be voting, at a time when the rest of us are old and need people to stand up for us.

In other countries, decisions are being made now that, besides abortion, are giving doctors and others the right or responsibility to take the lives of other innocent people:  some are sick people who could recover if given a chance, and some are older people who are euthanized simply because they happened to be considered a drain on their country’s resources.

(Don’t visit Holland–if you end up in the emergency room there, you may never come back.)

And by the way, countries who are adopting these policies are typically those who have chosen to have socialized medicine.

In societies that allow these kinds of things, when they first begin (typically when abortions are allowed to be a normal choice for every woman), they tend to progress into other things.  The results may not be in our favor, whatever way we voted, once we start eliminating other members of our society that we consider to be worth less than we or our comforts are.

Should we decide to choose socialism, we could be choosing those very same things for ourselves.

Do you know what I think?

If it was my decision that counted, I have a strong recommendation to make.

I think every citizen in America should take two years of Spanish and two years of Arabic before they reached adulthood, and refresher courses periodically thereafter.

Why?

I think someday the official language in America may very well be the language of those people groups: there might not be enough of us Caucasians to replace those in the current majority, and if we have another war, I guarantee other cultures in our country will come out ahead of us, at our standard rate of population growth.   …Or possibly, at our standard rate of population reduction.

We may need to make friends among other ethnic races or language groups in our country someday, especially if we are to maintain an influence of some kind.

Many of us have already made the choice to be childless.  (I’m one of them, as I choose to wait for a husband first.  In my way of thinking, the right one has not come into my life yet.)

I think that kind of choice may very well affect our future and our nation in ways we can’t today fathom.

It’s hard to know all the circumstances under which a woman would feel a need to get rid of her unborn.  Though I can’t think of too many circumstances under which I’d find it acceptable, I can say I’ve noticed there can be exceptions to just about every rule.

I do find it hard to understand, though, how a woman could depersonalize any baby she carried with her while “it” was in the process of starting to become someone, enough to be able to do away with it. As women, isn’t bringing forth life a part of who we are, on some level? Why would we even allow anyone to take that away from us?

Besides, I see population control–whether it’s of trees in the forest, of wild animals, of rats in the city, or of people in the world–as being one of those inbuilt rhythms of nature.

Studies have shown that rats are much more aggressive when they are put into a space that is too small and then their population grows until there are too many of them in that space. That’s when they start killing each other off and bringing the population down to a bearable level.

We used to raise gerbils.  It didn’t take long for gerbils to multiply astronomically.  Gerbil parents seem to eat their young when their population balloons out of control, too.

We humans tend to do that too on some level.

Not fun, but true.

There can be more than one reason people go to war.  Among other things, reasons for a war might include conflicts in beliefs, lack of the basic necessities of life, getting even, or a need for liberty.

Or…when the frustrations of having to deal with way too many people and the resulting complications cause life to overwhelm humankind, someone, somewhere may eventually say or do something that really ticks somebody else off.  People might start to take sides, and next thing you know, there is war.

As a religious person myself, I think I can probably say this:  if my religious beliefs tell me that someone else is wrong! wrong! wrong! if they don’t do it my way, and I think the only way to get everyone else to do it “right” is to force them to do it, I could very well be a force in the world to foreshadow the next bloody war.

(If you know anything about history, you know it’s been done before, and you’d know that there’s a good chance it will be done again.)

All it takes is a lot of people who all think differently (especially people who don’t know how to give and take in the press of life), living in a small amount of space so that no one person can easily get away from the others, and voila! Instant population control in the form of our next war!

War is neither fun nor pretty.  Countries can’t be blamed for wanting to find ways to keep the population down.  Trying to curb a population artificially has its own drawbacks, though.

People in China are finding out some of the negatives of China’s requirement that couples have only have one child.  Even those who do what the government says are suffering on many levels.

Negative consequences in taxes or jobs are given to couples in China who have “too many children” (more than one).  Unwanted children (typically girls) are discarded (sometimes killed), and orphans and anyone who cares enough to try to help them are beaten and treated like criminals.

Woe to you if you get married again and both you and your spouse each bring a child with them, or they decide to have another one between them.  One of the children has to be discarded and becomes one of the outcast orphans there.

If a woman in China becomes pregnant more than once, she has to go into hiding because she is now a criminal, and police may burn houses of their relatives or beat them or force them out of jobs… (This information is from a recent e-mail I got from a publication called “Voice of the Martyrs”.)

I’ve heard there’s a whole generation of men growing up there who will have very little chance of ever finding a woman to marry.

I sympathize, in more ways than one.

If there are mostly men in a culture or only men have the say, a society typically becomes much more aggressive.

Where there are far more men then women in a culture, the competition for the few available women as potential marriage partners is typically fierce.

History shows that such situations have at times induced war.

When there is a true need going unmet, something has to give.  Somehow, we all have to have a way to obtain what we really need in life, or there will be problems in one way or another.  Being able to find and keep a good mate is one of those needs.

Who knows?  A war could take place someday so that most of the wifeless generation of men in China would be able to obtain wives from somewhere else, overpopulation or no overpopulation.

Men and women need each other, however much some of us may protest otherwise.  All of us would benefit if we were able share the best of who we are and what we can do with each other in the right ways…through our own choice, not because anything was forced on us.

Where one lacks, the other can take over. Where they lack, we can cover for them.

That’s the way it was meant to be, as I see it.